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My Story Re: Bitty's Husband Has Passed Away
« Reply #30 on: February 22, 2019, 02:18:30 AM »
Much like everyone, I am sorry to hear this. I hope you and your daughter get through this stronger together.

I can not imagine how much strength that took for you to offer your hand to her at his funeral. You are an amazing woman. Don't ever forget that.
You know this is MLC when you have played emotional hot potato with a pair of crotch-less tights.

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Re: Bitty's Husband Has Passed Away
« Reply #31 on: February 22, 2019, 06:47:42 AM »
Dear Bitty,

I too am sorry and send my prayers and condolences for you, D, and SS..... I wish you strength for the time to come for both you and for D.

Your strength and grace is a shining example, even if OW was incapable of such.

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Re: Bitty's Husband Has Passed Away
« Reply #32 on: February 22, 2019, 07:07:13 AM »
I also send my condolences and would like to point out to you and other posters
how stressful these events are to the MLC'er as well as the LBS.

This unfortunately is one outcome that can happen and something I have seen from both sides.

The stress has caused major illnesses in many LBS as their immune systems are destroyed.

Please take care of yourself as this is like another bomb drop.


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Re: Bitty's Husband Has Passed Away
« Reply #33 on: February 22, 2019, 04:34:54 PM »
I am so sorry for the pain this brings to you, D, and SS. Then thereĀ“s the additional piece of unanswered questions and severed hopes of any kind of reconciliation or co-parenting model. Give yourself the time, space and grace to process this as most people will not be able to relate, not even most of us at HS. Sending you positive, loving, caring energy,
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Re: Bitty's Husband Has Passed Away
« Reply #34 on: February 23, 2019, 08:37:01 AM »

My heartfelt condolences are being sent your way.  What a difficult thing to go through.  May you find strength and comfort to help you through this. 
After all, tomorrow is another day.
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