From what I understand each one of us has at least a measure of intuition, but as children we were discouraged from using it...having been taught instead to believe in what we can see, touch and taste.
Using intuition requires a belief in the Lord or Higher Power, as this is where the messages come from. Like MH said, you learn to trust yourself, acting without thinking it to death. This is believing in things you cannot see, touch or taste.
I have flashes of deep intuition that come out of nowhere; and it is those that I trust the most. Some things I DO have to think out, because some of them I don't understand very well.
I can "see" more for others than I can for myself, and sometimes it is frustrating to find that I can "get" things for some people, but not for all people.
I'm generally too close to my own situation, but when I relax and allow the flashes to come, I can see more into my own situation...but it doesn't happen often unless it's important that I know something.
I have other gifts that I use on a regular basis; that are helpful in my work for the Lord; and these have developed over time and trials.
MH speaks of having a psychic link to her husband, each of you have this since your marital emotional bond has broken with your spouse...if you concentrate/meditate, you will feel what he is feeling, much like an empath that is versed in reading people's emotional weather.
When our bond was broken, I could read my husband clearly, like a well-read book...once the bonding reconnected itself, I was no longer able to do that..it is not allowed...the two marriage partners are supposed to be on a level playing field, and it would not do to have one more in the know than the other.
I can read other people with no problems..I just can't read my husband, and as of the time our son reached his 18th birthday, he was also closed to me; though son can read ME like a book.
We are both empathic.
The biggest factor is learning to trust YOURSELF; to become of the knowing that what you're lead to do is not harmful, but helpful...sometimes you'll get the "gut feeling" to do something, but because it runs against what you've been taught, you're hesitant to do it.
You will always know the difference between what's harmful and what's helpful..there will be a certain peace about what you're being led to do.
Sometimes you will be afraid, but learn to step out in spite of that fear, knowing this will help the situation at hand.
You will not always see results right off the bat...some things take time and that is where faith comes in. I trust the Lord with all that is within me; and He once guided me into pushing my husband to the point of insanity...I was deathly afraid, and when it came to the moment of truth HE spoke FOR me and through me to my husband...there are times when we are pushed to speak to our husbands..as what is said will make a difference.
That is why it is so important to submit to the Lord and His guidance...He will not guide us into something that is going to harm us...it is always to help us learn, and to help the MLC spouse come forward.
The voice you hear will be a familiar one that you cannot put your finger on, plus, from my own experience, He reveals Himself to me in such a way that I KNOW without the shadow of a doubt that it IS Him that speaks to me.
The Bible says to test the spirits; not every voice you hear will be Him, and He further says that His sheep KNOW His voice.....I've actually had the devil plant thoughts inside my head and talk to me, but that voice was NOT the once I recognized..this is where discernment comes in; a solid knowing of the difference between good and evil..it is another gift that is developed through this trial as well.
The hilarious thing with the devil is this: he cannot read your thoughts OR your mind..he can only look at the situation at hand, and plant doubtful thoughts that way...if you answer that voice in your head telepathically, (without speaking aloud) he cannot hear you, and therefore cannot answer you. It is only when you speak out loud that the devil hears you....I learned that a long time ago.
Understand the devil will use your spouse against you at times,(the MLC spouse is so far in the left field, they don't have the control the LBS spouse does) he hears the arguments between the two, because these are spoken out loud, and somehow things always get worse, as he's busy planting bad thoughts within BOTH minds as the argument ensues.
I'd seen it happen more than once..and learned to just take away the ammunition to prevent the devil from gaining any more power over the situation.
MLC is truly a spiritual battle of the mind and emotions, and it pays to know your enemy and know him well; learning to head off the attacks before they start....Satan comes to steal, kill and destroy, and he will use anything at his disposal to do just that.