[KayDee]

I said you must, as a man, be capable of being really nasty if the situation happened to warrant it.

Situations warranting such an approach could, in my view, include dealing with things like an intruder in your house, someone harrassing your wife or children ...... in other words a genuine threat. Also cold callers trying to scam you, calling again when they've been asked not to ..... no point in being polite with them.

Ah, well, I would call that protective action. I am capable of that too - And I am.... a woman....

[KayDee]

Although, for me, nasty is still nasty. And I hope I am never that, even through protection of self or others.

Agree also with what Marvyn wrote, there are many ways to be and to thrive in the world..

[The Navigator]

It looks like I opened Pandora's Box with my earlier utterance.

Whilst none of you have succeeded in persuading me that I am mistaken, and probably won't, I shall say no more about the matter.

[Happylight]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and reflections--has to be a bit different when you made it through--like watching a train wreck.