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My Story Alvin's 9th: Here I go again
#40: July 28, 2026, 01:16:54 PM
Whenever I see your threads, I think of the Alvin and the Chipmunks cartoon..... and Dave yelling "Alviiiiiinnnn!!!!!"  ;D

It's good to see ya.  8)

So, round two eh?

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W - 45
M - 49
Together 29 years, M 27
No kids
MLC Concluded 2025 - working on aftermath
BD - 27th April 2019
Start of Shadow - Feb 2012
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Alvin's 9th: Here I go again
#41: July 31, 2026, 01:13:00 AM
Quote from: Standing Strong on July 28, 2026, 01:16:54 PM
Whenever I see your threads, I think of the Alvin and the Chipmunks cartoon..... and Dave yelling "Alviiiiiinnnn!!!!!"  ;D

It's good to see ya.  8)

So, round two eh?

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Yes, round two 8)

Right now she feels like a copycat of ex wife before major BD.

Highly reactive - check
Blaming and gaslighting - check
Negative self talk - check
Sudden urge to run (physically) and getting fit - check
Massive amounts of sleep - check

What differs, and is brand new experience for me, is "unhealthy" clinginess. So maybe I have a stay-at-home wallower for time being.

Another change is that I truly get her "core wounds". But at the same I do understand they are not mine to heal or carry.

All in all she is not what you'd call fun company, lol... But I'm still here, living and building my life one day at a time. And I'm calm.

Alvin
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At time of BD.... Me: 43, XW: 41
Kids: G19,G18,G14,G12,S5
Together - 20½ Years, Married 19 Years

BD ("I don't love you"): Feb 2019, 
BD2 ("I don't want to fix this marriage."), Mar 2020
D filed May 2020, D finalized Dec 2020
I have moved on, and am in new relationship.

Lessons from Stoicism and REBT helped me to exit the chaos zone and become a better person. 

"Happiness and freedom begin with a clear understanding of one principle: Some things are within our control, and some things are not. - Epictetus"
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