[Thundarr]

Oh no.......not another master of "Article Ju Jitsu".....

Ready2Giveup

Donttransform

Not good combos either way.  Lol!!

[Ready2Transform]

LOL...hey!!  I could never be the Article Master DGU is.  But it never fails that when I hit a wall, something in the articles will bring me to clarity.

[being a lighthouse]

thanks Ready2 for that
"Harley's five needs for men are:  sexual fulfillment, recreational companionship, attractive spouse, domestic support, and admiration.
For women they are:  affection, conversation, honesty and openness, financial commitment, and family commitment."

ok well,  I did it all "right" we had a fulfilling frequent sex life. we hung out together. I looked good, I was supportive domestically and gave h support and  admiration.
as my h descended into the fog of his mlc the affection went, then conversation, h was dishonest and closed h stopped supporting the family financially and with commitment from January 2011 bd was early february 2011. Did I go looking elsewhere when NONE of my needs were met? hell  no . I did everything EVERYTHING i could. including finding here not long after bd (seeking spirit)
when mlc descends the "rules" don't apply they (mlc-er)  are out for themselves.

[Thundarr]

To be honest, in reading the first post again now that I've actually slept a bit overnight all of the same needs for women are true for men as well.  I guess his ratings were based on responses given in questionnaires or something but I do want to clarify that men aren't just about those 5 things.  What I'm saying doesn't apply to MLC really but I just wanted to prevent anyone from having a low opinion of men in general based on what we're going through here.  It's all too easy to just give up on the opposite sex or generalize to a point that we sabotage future relationships, be they with our spouses or with another.

[being a lighthouse]

well said Thundarr