[Jackolar12]

Thundar ,
This a great post, I can't wait for more info on this to be put on here as It may save a lot of family units being torn apart at the seems. It's great to find someone with the credentials and know how to do the maths, please thank her for this from me and carry on the good worl
Regards
Jackolar

[ruggedendurance]

Just my 2cents.

IMHO.    The only reason to stand is purely selfish on our part.    It is selfish because we can finally step out of the  ---yr marriage that we were in and look at it for what it was.

We can finally see the forest without the trees getting in the way.

We can see the dynamics of the relationship.    We can weigh what each partner brought to the marriage.   We can see the damage of our actions.   Of their actions.

We can decide how we want to proceed.

Our spouse and society no longer have any power over us.     We are in the clear to do as we wish.

It is a purely selfish position to be in.    And.   In a lot of cases.    It is a position we would never put ourselves in.    We were forced into it.

That being said.   It is totally up to us if we want to make improvements to ourselves.   If we feel the need to make improvements in ourselves.

We decide if our MLCer is worth waiting for.     We decide if we never want to waste another second of our life on them.

It is up to each individual to decide their own fate...........

We are the only ones that know all of the dynamics involved.     We are the only ones that have to live with our decisions.

Good luck to all of us.