[Disillusioned]

I dont know where all the female MLCR's get the "Live my truth" or "Be my authentic self,"  from.  I think modern pop psychology and new age spirituality is doing a number on some of them.  Of course, that doesnt excuse decades of men doing the same exact stuff.

[megogirl]

Everything. that "Disillusioned"  just said.

[Anjae]

I didn’t want the consequences of telling the truth.

Too simple??

Not to me. I would say, spot on. I see the lying as a self-defense mechanism.

Mr J lied for months before he left about being in an affair. He is a terrible liar, I was already suspicious, his lying confirmed it. If I hadn't got an anonymous phone call telling about him and OW1 he was going to pretent the whole thing had started after he left. As if I would had believed it.

I don't remember many small lies, the lies I remember were about big things. What Mr J has start to do at a certain point into his crisis is become all secretive, like telling were he lives. At times he even lied to court about where he lived because he didn't want to say. He gave court an address he had never lived at or used his work one. Bad luck. Every time I needed to know where he lived for legal reasons I would ask our former accountant. Once my lawyer requested Mr J presented proof he really lived where he said he did. He had none.

Other lies, all he claimed I did on his court divorce documents. He was asked by judges time and time again to proved proof what he claimed. He had none. His lawyers (he has had several) had to tell the judge their client had no proof. Usually, at that point, the lawyers used to get rid of him.

I dont know where all the female MLCR's get the "Live my truth" or "Be my authentic self,"  from

Male LBS do the same and say the same. They say they are living their truth and being their authentic self. Our authentic self does exist, but it is not the MLC version nor is it what people tend to think it is. It is and advanced meditation concept and has nothing to do with the way people used it as an excuse to behave bad.

[Jackolar12]

During the MLC Tsunami all responsibility is jumbled up together with their hormones, thoughts and behaviours. Their fantasies get to be acted out with the OM/OW so their euphoric for a long while. They get to direct their own low budget/actor movie and take the starring role no wonder they spend so much time in the tunnel having fun as it is better than reality. I think they revert to play as a form of therapy of happy memories in their past when they were bubble gum chewers.


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