[Baxter1]

https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=12122.0
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New Year, New Me, New Chapter

Journaling:

With a new year comes a new me it would seem. The Divorce is final and we are still cordial. The kids are fine, I met them in Glasgow on New Years Eve, great to see them and Scotland is amazing.
While I was there I also checked out London, amazing town with great people. I was only there for a couple of days, I wish I had more time to visit.

We are still on the 8-10 day cycle or her reaching out. Lately it seems like it’s more like 10-12 but that’s fine. When she does reach out she has complaints about the marriage, I listen, validate when appropriate and empathize with what she is saying. I don’t always agree with what she is saying but I can empathize and let her know I see her point of view. It’s like we are healing what was our marriage one text at a time.

I continue to give space and take my own space to explore my own life and take on new hobbies, make new friends and reconnect with old ones. I see the boys about every 2 weeks or so, they have their own friends and lives so I try to be included but also recognize that they are pretty busy growing up. Baxter is still great, I wish I could take him on my adventures but I think he’s much more comfortable at home.

[Helpnewc]

Well done Baxter.

They are so odd. Why talk about it when you ran and did not want to have a crack

It is so good to read you are in a good place.