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Discussion Re: Noticing others falling into MLC patterns
#10: November 01, 2011, 12:25:26 PM
Quote from: BonBon on November 01, 2011, 12:06:06 PM
Oh W2H4E,
Do you just want to slap him silly?
EEK!
Not exactly, since slapping would require physical contact.  NO THANK YOU.  I was in the break room today and he came in there to eat his lunch and call I guess at least one lady friend or whatever.  He was leaving her a voicemail telling her he had not heard from her and was just wanting to check in and see how she's doing today.  Sounds reasonable, til you hear the VOICE he uses to say it.  He starts laughing at the end of the message, like some pimp who's found a golden ticket to the playboy mansion and gets to select a ho of reputable skill.  Seriously I wanted to stick my head in the kitchen sink, wash out my ears.
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Re: Noticing others falling into MLC patterns
#11: November 01, 2011, 12:50:34 PM
My total condolences...blek....eeek......
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Re: Noticing others falling into MLC patterns
#12: November 01, 2011, 01:38:12 PM
Dislike!!!  :(
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Re: Noticing others falling into MLC patterns
#13: November 01, 2011, 04:07:55 PM
Quote from: StandandDeliver on November 01, 2011, 12:13:59 PM
What I just do not get in my own situation is that H said that he hated the concept of marriage, but he jumped from our marital home into a cohabiting set-up that is basically marriage without the ceremony and paper...

I am the one that is actually having a break from marriage!!! They are so stupid...
Lol. This is so true for me too. At around BD my W said she needed her own space, was going to live alone, had no intention of shacking up with anyone, wanted to be independent. So naturally enough if you desire the aforementioned freedoms the best course of action is to move in with a divorcee work colleague of dubious morality. She sees this dough-brain both at work and at home. She has far less time to herself than she did when she was married. ??? They are indeed stupid  :)

Like you S&D I am taking a break from marriage. We are gaining independence and growing as individuals whilst they are co-dependent and being manipulated. The back-to-front world of MLC.

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Re: Noticing others falling into MLC patterns
#14: November 01, 2011, 04:29:52 PM
Quote from: StandandDeliver on November 01, 2011, 12:13:59 PM

Of course, MLCers do not admit that they made bad choices to anyone, so his no may not be the absolute truth, and of course there must be some who just never exit MLC or really never do want their ex's back.

What I just do not get in my own situation is that H said that he hated the concept of marriage, but he jumped from our marital home into a cohabiting set-up that is basically marriage without the ceremony and paper...

I am the one that is actually having a break from marriage!!! They are so stupid...

I know one former MLCer that admits his mistakes. But he had had enough time on his own after divorcing OW to process the all think. He tried to go back to the first wife (LBS), too late. She had moved on.

Ah!...that amazinh thing of the MLCer that does not want to be married anymore, wants to be free, live on his onw, but already has someone on the side with whom they are planning buying a house and life happy ever after... ::)

Mine dreamed it all with OW1 but only "managed" to gave the fabulous i'm still married-not with this woman-single life OW2. So much for MLCers not wanting responsabilities. Now there are all the domestic issues that existed while with the spouse, plus all the troubles with spouse (and kids, if there are any).

Sounds like a lot o fun, freedom, no problems and I'm having a blast, doesn't it?... ::) Yep, for very away me from all that mess!  ;D ;D ;D
 
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