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#20: September 19, 2011, 09:50:08 AM
Our anniversary is May 29th, and since it was just under two weeks past BD I wasn't going to mention it.  We had been planning on seeing Hangover 2 for months and she brought up the idea of going out to our favorite restaurant and seeing it for our anniversary.  I got my hopes up (I was still thinking she may be WAW or just angry toward me) until she said, "It'll be like our last hurrah!"  We did go out to our favorite restaurant and had a great time, but toward the end she put on her Facebook "Dinner, drinks and a movie with the soon-to-be ex.  Life is great!!"  She also acted like I was toxic at the theater and turned around as far as she could from me even though we were sitting side by side.  I thought that by holding her hand as we always had that it would bring back good feelings.  It didn't. 

Later, a friend messaged her and asked if she was really getting divorced.  She replied, "Yes!! It's a good thing!! Really!"  I simply could not imagine that my sweet, loving W was dumping me in such a way and publicly gloating about it.  I think it was the first time I started thinking she was possessed.

Not looking forward to next year's.  Or the holidays for that matter.
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Re: What have People done about Wedding Anniversaries?
#21: September 19, 2011, 09:56:56 AM
I always recognized the day in one way or another.  Since my exH was the one who left, I would get him a card or make a gift as seemed appropriate to the situation/way he was behaving at the time but I made sure any cards were honest and really "where I was at."  It's seemed silly to me to send something all lovey and smooshy if that wasn't how we were.  :P  Anyway, for myself I always treated myself in some way that day.  I got myself a bouquet, went to a spa once, and always a nice steak dinner, but I usually cooked them myself.  See, when we were together "HE" ran the grill and I only cooked indoors--so on our anniversary I bought T-bones for all of us (myself, and two kids) and grilled them just because I could do it by myself.   So I made our anniversary a day that was recognized, honest, special for me, and was just a tinge of that spirit that says "I can do this!"
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Re: What have People done about Wedding Anniversaries?
#22: September 21, 2011, 04:04:34 PM
My 17th anniversary is Oct. 21st. I have taken off work, its fall break for the kids. We are going out of town and have fun. The previous 2 anniversaries I have spent alone. This year will be different. My H probably doesn"t care and will be with his OW. I have to live my life as if he was deceased.
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Re: What have People done about Wedding Anniversaries?
#23: October 02, 2011, 07:29:11 PM
I've had 2 anniversaries since BD with no acknowledgement. Last year my mother in law posted Happy Anniversary on H's facebook page. He deleted it. The last anniversary we spent "together" was our 10th. One month later he gave me the BD speech. The anniversary of that day is the 10th of this month. This year, I didn't acknowledge it and neither did he. I bought myself an e-reader which he thought was great. He worked on our anniversary and texted with OW. This year was easier than last. I did my best to keep busy.

Good luck to everyone who deals with the post BD wedding anniversary. It is hard to think about how easy it is for them to forget the promises they made to you on that day.
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