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I am not a fan of acronyms, but sometimes they are helpful. What I dislike is when they are used in place of proper grammar or full conversation. I have compiled a brief list of common acronyms along with a few words and concept- phrases common to the topic Standing in the context of midlife crisis and infidelity. My personal preference is to write out most phrases, but use acronyms when they stand for something specific such as a person or single idea.

Marriage, MLC & Infidelity Specific

Alienator	A gender-free term for the affair partner
D	Divorce
EA	Emotional Affair
EMA	Extramarital Affair
H	Husband
IC	Individual Counseling or Counselor
ILY	I Love You
ILYBINILWY	I Love You But I'm Not In Love With You
LBS	Left Behind Spouse
MC	Marriage Counseling or Counselor
MLC	Midlife Crisis
MLCer	Midlife Crisis Spouse
MOM	Married Other Man
MOP	Married Other Person
MOW	Married Other Woman
OM	Other Man
OP	Other Person
OW	Other Woman
PA	Physical Affair
SA	Sexual Affair
STBX	Soon-To-Be-Ex
STBXH	Soon-To-Be-Ex Husband
STBXW	Soon-To-Be-Ex Wife
W	Wife
WAH	Walk Away Husband
WAS	Walk Away Spouse
WAW	Walk Away Wife
X	Ex
XH	Ex-Husband
XW	Ex-Wife

 
People

ACOA	Adult Child of an Alcoholic
BIL	Brother-In-Law
D#	Daughter, Age
DIL	Daughter-In-Law
FIL	Father-In-Law
FOO	Family Original Origin
H/W	Husband/Wife
MIL	Mother-In-Law
S#	Son, Age
SIL	Sister-In-Law or Son-In-Law

Terms and Concepts

Cake-Eating	Trying to have the best of two worlds--you and the alienator.
Dark, Dim	Varying levels of contact limitation
GAL	Get A Life, Who Are You? Find and become your Self.
Hope	Something that runs in the background, present, but suspended for attentiveness to the reality of Now.
Monster	The nasty personality displayed by many MLCers, consists of venom spewing blame and hatred.
NC	No Contact, The strictest level of contact limitation
Paving the Way	Paving a safe path--using the Unconditionals--to you for your spouse.
PMA	Positive Mental Attitude
Mirror-Work	What you need to do for yourself.
The Unconditionals	Grace, Agape and Forgiveness

 
Common Shorthand

BTDT	Been There Done That
BTW	By The Way
FTR	For the Record
IMHO	In My Humble Opinion
IMO	In My Opinion
OMG	Oh My God
OTOH	On The Other Hand
PDA	Public Display of Affection
PM	Private Message
POV	Point Of View
TMI	Too Much Information
WTF	What The F**k
WYSIWYG	What You See Is What You Get