[Shadow7]

It bothers me that:

I am here writing this on friday night.

That my idea of our perfect little family has been shattered.

That I wake up every morning and go to sleep every night thinking about this.  It's consuming me.

That my daughter has been forever changed.

That I will soon be divorced.

That I can relate to all of these posts.

That being alone will be my future.

[calamity]

It bothers me that my h is not special.

[Moving Forward]

It bothers me that mizdiz started a thread called 'These things I like' and it has had 2 responses in the first 14 hours.

On the same timeframe this thread had 25 responses.........

It bothers me that the focus is still heavily on the MLCer and not on the good, positive work we are undertaking on ourselves and sharing the results

[With Gods Help!]

Moving forward i was goner reply to this thread with................in many ways my h's MLC as made me realize that I do not need my h ...............whilst i wanted him and still love him..............i have learned what it means to get to know myself................that's something Ive not had the pleasure in doing in 27 yrs....................somewhere along the lines all Ive  ever been is a mum and wife (whilst i wouldn't change that) ..............i never truly knew who i was or what i wanted as an adult i was still a child when h and I met ( i was 17 h was 16)............this i believe was a wake up call for the both of us................my h had become too dependent on me (looking back i was looked upon as his mum) he never had to get himself out of  fix.........cos frankly i always stepped in...........now im not around he as to think for himself ............if this had not happened i feel sure i would have ended up resenting h and maybe we would have broke up anyway.........GOD may have created this mess we call MLC to wake both of us up before we lost each other for ever..............I really don't dwell on the things hes done or doing anymore really ...........don't get me wrong little things enter my thoughts ................but i think Ive finally allowed forgiveness into my heart and mind.........so i find dealing with h a lot easier..................i think it also helps that out of the blue my h sent me an apology  for what hes done...........whilst its only words ...........i needed to hear them so i could really allow myself to TRULY  forgive him xxxxxxxxxxxx

[Slow Fade]

GOD may have created this mess we call MLC to wake both of us up before we lost each other for ever....

I agree WGH. A person who has been like a father to me since my Dad died told me, "did it ever occur to you that you aren't the one who needed to learn a lesson from this?" I know God has a plan. I know it involves both of us as I'm drawing closer and closer to God. Growth is never easy or painless, but it is always worth it.

If my H responds to God's leading and finds his way Home, he will find a different woman than the one he left.......

[stayed]

What impresses me, I was just over to the "what pleases me" thread and the same people are posting on it.  It appears we are able to understand and express the "what bothers us" and at the same time, TOTALLY APPRECIATE what we do have, what we have learned, what we will take from this experience and NEVER FORGET.

That seems like a good thing to me....

hugs Stayed