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#10: October 10, 2011, 05:05:41 PM
I have a Myspace, Facebbok and Twitter. Myspace existed before husband left. Still pretty much for what it was, adding bands I like. Both Facebook and Twitter are closed. Only people I accept can see it. Husband's and OW2 FB and Twitter are closed.

I have my SIL on my FB, so I can see their comments on her posts and they can see mine. They can also, if they like, ask her to see my FB. I have nothing husband/marriage/OW related there. Just post things I like, photos, features, music, movie trailers. Not much about my personal life, nor photos of myself or relatives.

Twitter is for professional reasons so the talks there are professional.

I know about husband and OW2 teenage FB romance because of theirs posts on SIL and people that, now and then ask: have you seen what he posted/where he has been has, etc. No, I have not.

Husband as a professional FB. Nothing personal going on there.
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Re: Do You Publicly Share Your Life Online?
#11: October 10, 2011, 05:55:47 PM



I am considering the whole Facebook thing but, honestly, I really have no idea why I am ::) . It's just not my thing. Mainly, I think it's because lately I've been feeling the urge to not hide anymore as I've been doing. It's not that I've been hiding from him necessarily ( maybe I am, I'm not sure ) but I just have so much work to do on myself and I've never felt comfortable enough to showcase life or fake it / play games. Maybe if I had a Life I would feel differently. That's preciciely why I'm here though :) .


Even if I did publicly display myself in a flattering way, I think the only response I would get from him would be: "I'm glad to see that you're doing well and are finally happy and you look nice". But see, then I wouldn't want to have that anxious feeling to be checking every hour to see if he's checking.


Do I make sense? I feel like I'm babbling :) .
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Re: Do You Publicly Share Your Life Online?
#12: October 10, 2011, 06:02:37 PM
Stargazer, you can set your profile to private so that only certain people have access to it.  You don't have to let him see anything!  I like it because I can keep in touch with friends and family that I wouldn't see much of otherwise, but I would definitely not leave anything open to the public!  I don't think you can tell who is checking your profile or not though, unless they post a comment or message.  But if it's not your thing in the first place, then no need to bother really.
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#13: October 10, 2011, 06:04:05 PM
StargazerGirl, there's no rule that says you should have  FB account!! Do what you want to do... you asked the question, you saw that we all answered differently according to how WE feel about OUR sitch..... go with your gut... if it's not you, then don't lose any sleep over it!!
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Re: Do You Publicly Share Your Life Online?
#14: October 10, 2011, 06:04:56 PM
As long as you keep posting here!  :)
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Re: Do You Publicly Share Your Life Online?
#15: October 10, 2011, 06:16:18 PM
Star, but why have a FB because of him? If you are going to make one make it for yourself. Besides, he can only see what you let him see. You want to draw his attention? Why?...

Why would you not display yourself in a flattering away? Do you not feel well with yourself? I don't mean you should lie...

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Re: Do You Publicly Share Your Life Online?
#16: October 10, 2011, 06:28:58 PM
It's not that I want to start one for him really. I mean, I am curious to know how he would react ( maybe he doesn't even look for me online or elsewhere anymore ) but I wouldn't ever do it simply to get his attention. It would definitely only happen for me first. I'm just wondering about the typical reactions from the other mlc's when they see you online especially if, as in my case, you normally keep your info private or spontaneously  switched to a public profile.


AnneJ, sorry I didn't mean to imply that I thought that you thought I needed to lie ;) . I was playing around with the functions and that bright red shadow showed up ;D .



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I was 13 ~ he was 15 ~ Together for 19 years. Doomed from the start?
We never married ~ no children ~ two cats ~ Bomb Drop ~ 6/22/09 ~ he left to be w/ the Op & Op's kid
Atomic Bomb Drop ~ 3/22/12 ~ found out they had a child in early February, 2012 ( 2 weeks before my BDay )

In 100 years, none of this will matter but time is still. (( hugs & prayers to all ))
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