[LisaLives]

Trying to figure out how to respond, but I think the bottom line is it takes a LONG time for them to show remorse, and most people don't stay here that long, plus since this is a site for standers, most of the ones who move on and remarry probably don't come back to tell their stories.  But yes, even some of the LBS I know with incredible Ahole MLCers show remorse.  But sadly, I think they also subject themselves to the torture of a horrible life with OW as punishment...  And the more normal stories, all of them show remorse.  I can tell you about a dozen stories off the top of my head, and I have a whole journal of them that I saved over the years, plus since I now work with school administrators, I get new ones about once a month.  Now that I am engaged, even more people want to tell me about second marriages, and it's all good stuff.  I have yet for anyone to tell me a nightmare story of an LBS in a second M, so I take that as good.  But I might write more when I am not in a Benedryl haze...  Cold and flu season combined with my worst allergy season is just lovely!   

[kikki]

The taking a very long time to show remorse makes a lot of sense. 
When I really come to grips with the fact that they have rejected who they were previously and are trying on new lives with new hats, it makes sense that they reject all of the people and roles (father, mother, husband, wife, friend) that went with the previous life.

It makes sense that they are blind to the destruction, and if they ever integrate the new with the old and the core selves - it must be terrifying for a MLCer to face their MLC behaviours.
Would love that crystal ball. 

Looking forward to most of us hearing remorse one day.

Take care Lisa - that combo doesn't sound fun.

[UKStander]

And the more normal stories, all of them show remorse.  I can tell you about a dozen stories off the top of my head, and I have a whole journal of them that I saved over the years, plus since I now work with school administrators, I get new ones about once a month.  Now that I am engaged, even more people want to tell me about second marriages, and it's all good stuff.  I have yet for anyone to tell me a nightmare story of an LBS in a second M, so I take that as good.  But I might write more when I am not in a Benedryl haze...  Cold and flu season combined with my worst allergy season is just lovely!   

LL, please come back when your allergy season is over and tell us briefly about some of these stories...

I'm joining this thread and late and haven't really the time to catch up with all of it, though I've read through what I can with BIG interest.

If my H petitions for D, I am prepared to really take my stand to the limit and even pursue this to the high court. This will be a publicity opportunity for MLC and I hope all on this site will assist where they can.  I will only do something if H files, but if he does, I will have to seek the feistiest, toughest, battle-strong lawyer that I can find and use the remainder of my savings on this. I will rely heavily on this site for support. I hope I'll find it. It will be a do or die mission!

Should it come to that...  I hope the process works, so I never have to do this. 

If the process works, and H awakens and returns, then I will tell the story anyway, and get greater publicity. This whole thing is too nightmarish and too common to not be told, until the general population - and above all the doctors - get it.

[Jackolar12]

Hi UKS,
When I engaged a barrister for one day in court my bill was approx £5000. That's just one day yikes!
High Court would be astronomically costly, I had no control over the money bleeding out of my savings and had to get a loan over ten years to finish the Proceedure my female lawyer once joked after a bad day in court with my Mlcer that she was as cold as ice and it would be cheaper to hire a hit man, I had to laugh