[Jaybeecee]

S4A,
xH'S brother actually asked him if he was on drugs due to his behavior. He asked me as well.  XH can barely drink a whole beer and has never been drunk in his life.   But I can completely see how to an outsider, it appears to be a reasonable conclusion due to the erratic behavior.

[Kat0465]

this has got to be an organic Illness....Too many similarities with everyones MLC"er. the Cold dead Shark eyes,The Smells,the pacing around like a Kook,ALL of it.
its still a shocker sometimes.I am 3 years post BD this month :/  And while ive saw some small SMALL progress. Hes still Deep in it. with the same ole Nasty he ran off with.
he was a clinging boomeranger.but hes weaned himself off of it all and is now mostly a vanisher. although I get a text most days I still consider him a vanisher...Have not laid eyes on the man in 6 months.

People comment tho on how very bad he looks.....

[Velika]

Kat, I agree.

I posted something to neurology thread others may find interesting. It is about a specific region of the brain and what happens if it is damaged. The description is identical to MLC.

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=7709.msg535684#msg535684

I haven't had time to research causal links but was honestly amazed by what I read.

Is the smell like vinegar? Like cheese?

[Kat0465]

velika,
My H was a heavy drinker the second half of the marriage,im talking about the hard stuff. I found bottles and bottles hid everywhere after he left.
Im thinking it did and has hurt his brain. How could it not? alcohol, Hormonal Changes,Stress, I could go on. He was always a bit selfish and self absorbed,but the total lack of respect, and the Pure Hurt he caused his family.....that's not my H

funny thing is his dad AND his dads Father all did the same thing. around the same time in age.you cant tell me that's coincidence either.
When his Father left his Mom. he was 27 (same age as our daughter was) and he Physically Broke down and sobbed like a baby. saying how could his father do that.He could never leave His family that way,............


The smell,hmmm Adolescent male comes to mind. my sons Bedroom smelled the same. BO, Alcohol, Just Ughhh.
it was Def not my Husbands Normal smell.....

[Thunder]

No V, it's kind of like BO..like a teenager that has not taken care of their hygiene.

So very hard to describe.  I can't tell you how bad I feel saying this.
My X has always been very physically clean.  Always smelled good.  Even when he ran and sweated it was a pleasant, musky, manly smell.
I love sweat on a guy (call me crazy).

This is different.

[Lisa137]

Upper back and neck pain, headaches, vision worsened, those damn shark eyes, high blood pressure, gastric reflux, low T, balding, weight gain

[Thunder]

Ok, this may be interesting to everyone!

We were out walking the dogs today.  My X ran 9 miles the day before.
He told me after he ran he was bothered by his BO smell.  Said it was really bad.   

He said it's funny but he noticed his body odor was really bad after his run.
He said he never smelled from BO like he did yesterday.

After what we were talking about I was really surprised.
He told me he has never noticed this before.  He said even when he sweated before after exercising he never had this problem.

He said he was eating more junk food lately and maybe that was the reason. 

I said to him..I suppose that could be but I also think it could be from hormones.
Sometimes a change in hormones can do that to you.

Nothing more was said but I had to share that with you guys because we were just discussing this.
.
Freaked me out that HE is noticing.

[UrsaMajor]

That IS interesting...

I've often heard that most people do not recognize their own odor.. The fact that he did says that it is somehow "different" to what he is used to (the olfactory nerve tends to block things after a certain level of exposure... )

[MyBrainIsBroken]

I always notice mine after a long run but quite often I'm literally soaked. It's odd that he noticed it the day after he ran.

[Thunder]

MB,

He talked about it the next day but noticed it after he ran that day.
It's odd but it must have really bothered him to bring it up.