[Anjae]

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http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=1231.0
http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=1769.0
http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=2790.0
http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=7143.0
http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=7723.0
https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=9309.0

Losts of information and some debate.

[Savoir Faire]

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[Anjae]

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2018/jul/21/midlife-crisis-myth-life-gets-better-after-50 - Midlife crisis? It’s a myth. Why life gets better after 50

If the Guardian says MLC does not exist, than it does not.

Wonder what we are all dealing with... besides, MLC does not stike at 50. Nor do people really become happier after 50. Some do, some don't.

This type of article and view of MLC is one of the reasons why it is so hard to mention the issue outside of HS and be taken seriously.

[forthetrees]

This article talks about anxiety, depression and pessimism and backs up the thoughts on the forum about a chemical balance. According to the article, the chemical is dopamine and just a slight imbalance can throw off a mouse/person.

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/322741.php

[strawberry]

Regarding the Guardian Article.  I read Jonathan Rauch’s book that article is based on.  The book is good for the 95% of people who just experience a normal mid-life transition.  Unfortunately, he dismisses the crisis sufferers while describing people who are clearly in crisis and spiraling out of control.  He also makes it sound like these people are getting out of bad marriages (while noting that marriage improves happiness) but doesn’t notice that they may not have had bad marriages until their crisis.  Part of his problem is that he doesn’t have the right experience or perspective of having his own crisis after a long happy marriage.  He was newly married when it hit. 

Overall, it’s a good book.  But he missed that there is a difference between crisis and transition.

[Anjae]

But he missed that there is a difference between crisis and transition.

Like pretty much everyone out there who thinks they are talking about MLC, when, in fact, they are talking about midlife transition.

FTT, the article is interesting, but I don't thing it is a given dopamine and the caudate nucleus are the real and absolute causes of depression, anxiety and pessimism.

 "The researchers suspect that stimulating this brain area causes a disruption in dopamine, the so-called sex, drugs, and rock 'n' roll hormone.

"There must be many circuits involved," concludes Prof. Graybiel. "But apparently we are so delicately balanced that just throwing the system off a little bit can rapidly change behavior.""

They suspect, they don't know. Still, most people get SSRI's, that target Serotonine, for depression. And I can tell you that meds that target domapine don't also don't work for all the depressed people they are given to.

Depression may even be electical. Or a mix of electrical and chemical. And it most likely have a number of different causes/roots/place target and medium. I don't think all depressions have the same causes. Thinking so - aside from those that are clearly found as being something else, like caused by thyroid issues - is what I think as made things so compliated. And so frustrating when it comes to results.

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[iamnottheenemy]

This was in The Washington Post yesterday. I read it and immediately thought MLC. The columnist's advice is pretty in line with what we talk about here.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/carolyn-hax-moms-permanent-vacation-leaves-a-big-onus-for-dad/2018/08/24/8411b8fa-a4a0-11e8-a656-943eefab5daf_story.html?utm_term=.9a83b2bb131a

[Nas]

I didn't think MLC here, only because the opening paragraph says she's had mental health issues for years.  Lots of similarities though.

[Treasur]

smells like Depression with a big D
which imho is the fuel of MLC
what makes it MLC is if there is also a weak/changing sense of self...ergo the replay fixes
it's like really angry depression
i guess time will tell if this w is in MLC or not but we all know how this poor h must be reeling in shock while trying to figure out what to do to keep the family ship afloat