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#160: December 27, 2018, 05:41:12 PM
I have not erased any of the magic of those 35 years and I continue to see him as being "infected" by something that he had no control over..his continuing connection to me shows me that somewhere inside of him, he still has some pretty intense feelings for me.

Yep.....all of this (except for the '35 years' part)!

The MLC was confirmed to me by a phone call I'd received from Prisoner/Real H.   And that whatever the "infection" was invading his body, I knew I had to see this through.
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Re: Old Timers Thread 3
#161: December 27, 2018, 05:45:11 PM
Quote from: Anjae on December 27, 2018, 05:23:48 PM
It is quite interesting how pretty much all male LBS pay alimony and child support to their MLC, but male MLCers often don't pay a cent to their LBS and children. ...

Thank you Anjae for recognizing that.  I absolutely agree with this.  Although in my case, I have fared WAY better than most male LBSes.

I pay a very large amount of Child Support for one daughter.  But there is no alimony.  I also bought her out of the marital home.  Make no mistake, she received a large short term settlement immediately after our divorce, but I am so blessed and I know it.  I will come out faaaarrrrrr better in the long term.

Not that I am trying to rush my life away, and I also do not mean to offend any LBSes that are in this boat, but as an unskilled laborer, my ex is not going to fair very well when my youngest d turns 18, and the gravy train stops.

I harbor no ill will, but these are the life choices she has made, and therefore has to live with them.

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Re: Old Timers Thread 3
#162: December 27, 2018, 06:45:13 PM
OP or does one of the Old Timers want to start a new thread?   :)
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Re: Old Timers Thread 3
#163: December 28, 2018, 02:15:34 AM
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