[UrsaMajor]

Oh I had forgotten the sister one, I also got "I love you like I would love a sister" 

Change it to "brother" and that was the version I got.....
ILYBINILWY (standard Stock Mid-Lifer phrase)
I don't know what happened
It HAS to be this way
You didn't get rid of your dog when I asked
You didn't give up going to church when I asked
You didn't stop listening to <singer>  when I told you to stop
You work too much (I was in a launch campaign that had been delayed several times)
You don't do anything when you are home (except cook, my laundry, take care of the kids, take care of the yard, do home repairs, maintain our cars, walk the dogs, take them to the vet, do the grocery shopping.....   )
You spend too much time working on the yard
You don't spend enough time working on the yard (seriously! days apart - after she let the dog dig a HUGE hole in the yard... 3 times.... )
I'm not physically attracted to you
You only touch me because want to have sex (Remember the LBS Cooties?)
You only want to do things with the kids, never with me...
You never want to do things together with the kids, only with me
We can get back together in a few years. <Names> Parents did that too

[Jackolar12]

Strange how i can think back and remember all the crazy stuff as if it were yesterday, I suppose it is seared into my memory. I’m into my seventh year and still can’t believe she did this to us all.

 A lady I know a distant relative of hers rang me out of the blue after over 6 years last Friday and said she bumped into the Mlcer and my youngest daughter out shopping. She said she had long hair down to her waist and dressed and acted like a teenager. She made a big fuss of the lady which is strange as she used to avoid her in the past. She made a point of telling the lady how much she loves her cheater boyfriend.

Some things the Mlcer said at bomb drop and a few weeks afterwards before vanishing.

“I don’t love you anymore” said in a teenage manner.
“I’m so sorry”
“This wouldn’t have happened if you got up and made me a cup of tea in the morning” I used to.
“You walk too fast in front of the pram” All our children were young adults.
“I didn’t wait outside the shops for her like her brother does” We are talking 2 decades ago”.
“I do silly things”.
“you made me do it”

Even the judge said to her her evidence was history and not recent.
She used to communicate by post it notes left for me to find.
The whole episode was histrionic, vilifying and demeaning towards me and hurt like hell.

[Shockandawe]

I also got:

I love you as a friend!
I know I will regret this but I have to get it out of my system
I don’t hate you but I have feelings of ill will towards you
I don’t remember one good thing between us
The only feeling I have is guilt
She is as much a victim as you
I’m sick of doing things for everyone else now it’s time for me
I think I’m having a midlife crisis!

[Silver]

I think I’m having a midlife crisis!

a moment of clarity?!

Found some more:

(when asked if she ever regretted divorcing me) Yes I have many times, but it had to be done
I feel I have to start living like there's no tomorrow, before I die
You can sleep with someone else but remember, that's a big decision (told her already I am not going to) 

[Ro828]

"I’m sick of doing things for everyone else now it’s time for me".  I got the exact same thing.

I also got....

- We can get remarried in six years after we divorce. 
- We are too much alike
- I hope you can find someone to love
- You work too much
- You kept the dining room table messy
- She "rocks my world"
- I have to leave as you'll never forgive me

Gosh, there were so many. These are just a top few.   It's really laughable.   Thank God I see the humor in it now.

[Kitty]

I've gotten ILYBINILWY only a couple times in the form of:

"I feel like I'm living with a roommate"
"I know I love you, but I don't know HOW I love you"

I had also heard on the few times he brought up D, "We'll get the D, do our own thing for a year or two and then we can start dating again"

In the very beginning it was:

"You don't cook and clean enough" - Because working overtime every night and most Saturdays, and then helping him work on his garage expansion project when I wasn't working had left lots of time for cooking and cleaning. 
"Your confidence is low and I am tired of trying to make you feel better"
"I'm not happy with our living situation"
"I'm not happy with my job"
"I can't keep up with the younger guys on the league anymore, I can't burn the candle at both ends like I use to"

Now it's mostly just:

"I NEED to feel happy again, and I'll do whatever it takes to feel that way"

[megogirl]

We can get remarried in six years after we divorce. 

LOL!!

How'd he come up with the figure of SIX years?!?

I know we'll never understand, so Idk why I'm even trying to......lol

[Slow Fade]

One of the ones I got was


"I have to leave because the dog is too fat."

You can't make this sh*t up!

[bubbs16]

I forgot one or two

"I can't be myself with you"
"we are to opposite"

[One day at a time]

I think I’m having a midlife crisis!

a moment of clarity?!

Oh mine also mentioned midlife crisis a few times as well. Something like "I wish I could wake up some day and say "Wohooo, my midlife crisis is over"" 

Also many mentions of "This that I'm going through" - I honestly think he knew something was wrong at the beginning... and then the real alien took over