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Off-Topic Re: Anjae
#80: October 21, 2019, 01:06:47 PM
Quote from: serenity on October 15, 2019, 03:16:32 AM
I would also like to take this opportunity just to say - (sorry if this is going off topic a bit) but there are several other posters that I believe should be removed from this site!

They continuously start arguments, cause upsets and post controversial stuff.  There’s also a certain person that posts, that I find downright offensive! This person writes about their sexual exploits, their many relationships and personal information and none of it has anything to do with MLC and in my opinion shouldn’t be allowed to continue on a site specifically created to support LBS’s!!!

While you are at it, why don't you start a petition to get rid of the people you don't like?  ::)

I am completely opposed to the idea of petitions to bring back or remove members from the forum. Membership should not be by vote or popularity contest or by pressure from the loudest complainers.
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Re: Anjae
#81: October 21, 2019, 01:35:38 PM
Agreed!
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Re: Anjae
#82: October 21, 2019, 03:21:28 PM
Not too long ago NYM agreed with me about something on another thread and now I'm going to return the favor by agreeing with NYM on this issue.

I think we're even now. :D
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Re: Anjae
#83: November 14, 2019, 04:40:40 PM
No specific reason, but thought of Anjae tonight. I do miss having one of the old faithful members on the forum.
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Re: Anjae
#84: November 15, 2019, 06:17:52 AM
I think a lot of us do, Milly.
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Re: Anjae
#85: November 15, 2019, 06:38:53 AM
Ya know I remember when I started here in 2010- 2011.
There was something that was added to some posters threads. It went something like this.

Take whatever you feel might be helpful in whatever comment/ advise/ insight/ observation someone else posted on your (or someone else's) thread and IGNORE the rest.

It's like any other social media, you don't like the meme or the subject matter of a thread? Keep scrolling.

 How did it happen that everyone gets so offended by just about anything?

Someone posts a lot about a subject matter you find offensive?

Don't read their thread.

If you are frustrated by your efforts to try to enlighten someone to do some self reflection and they get offended?

Stop posting on their thread.
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Re: Anjae
#86: November 15, 2019, 06:52:15 AM
Milly... I miss her everytime I come on HS.  She was here the 1st time I posted in 2013 and became a very good pain - in -the -ass cyber friend. Honestly, it really is one of my triggers ( people suddenly leaving with no input or control from me ) and I felt rumblings of that . I am sorry she is no longer here . For me , 6 years is a long time to interact with someone and now they are gone. She helped me in many many ways. I understand .
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Re: Anjae
#87: November 15, 2019, 07:14:49 AM
Barbie, I believe someone has her email address, but I don't remember who now.  It's somewhere on this thread, I think.
Maybe you could stay in touch that way.
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Re: Anjae
#88: November 15, 2019, 07:23:12 AM
All good points.. Serenity, nobody makes you open that thread, I don't.

In my 30's, when I had my MLT, I used to watch the news, read the paper and listen to the radio all the time. That's what my parents did and I guess I was sort of emulating them because I lacked my own sense of identity and I really missed that connected feeling you used to get from everyone in the same town listening to the host every morning. I used to call them the soap on a rope days.

I didn't realize though, those days were gone. We're living in a post baby jessica, always on and the attention goes to the loudest screamer world of non stop, 24 hour unrelenting media.

Anyway, after xw left, after BD, i stopped tuning in. I didn't realize how much negativity it brought into my life. I also realized a large part of our interactions were rushing home to complain about something awful we saw on the news. I realized too, people bond over complaining. Works sucks, traffic sucks, the weather sucks..

It's just a bad habit we are absolutely 100% in control of. When people ask how you're doing, why not say something good? Why not find blogs and news outlets online that only post positive stuff? You know what really makes me happy? Medical and science news. Advances are being made in so many fields that you don't even hear about, because negative stuff sells. Cancer research, environmental research, psychology, therapy.. there's a whole positive world that's going on that simply doesn't sell like negative news.

You have to be your own adult. it's hard to do, but to modify an old saying, if you don't have anything nice to hear, turn it off.

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Re: Anjae
#89: November 15, 2019, 07:43:11 AM
Gman,

I stopped watching the news a few years ago because it was all negative stuff.  Fires, shootings, etc..
Now I go on line and choose what stories I want to read.

I would do it all over again.

These past two years I stopped watching the political shows.  Too upsetting. Now I read what I want to read.
It was very calming because I am a political junky who just finally said..no, no more.

I do however, keep up with the issues.  :)
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