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OP: March 18, 2020, 10:06:05 AM
Prompted by WhyUs's thread, wondered if it might be useful to share some GAL successes or ideas here....

Me? Podcasts and getting out on my allotment (conveniently at least 20ft from anyone else minimum and those veggies might come in handy in a few months time lol)
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#1: March 18, 2020, 11:02:10 AM
For me , giving this house a huge spring cleaning. Honestly it has been ignored for a good couple of years, and the new kitchen spread drywall dust and stuff everywhere that has not been deep cleaned. Drapes down, baseboards repainted, purging piles of unnecessary stuff etc etc . Not truly fun at all but will feel good when done. Been sewing ..made 3 new tops and a dress, been painting with my kid and tried a new soup recipe. H is now working from home as he is in a high risk category ( diabetic and 1 kidney) however, I would bet he is back on the job site on Monday.  Next I am going to download a garden design app and make some plan to revamp my garden. If I was in here for a year, I would not run out of things to occupy me.
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#2: March 18, 2020, 02:21:26 PM
We have to stay home now, unless for important stuff such as food or doctor.
Working from home at a new job gave me a lot of stress and I was having trouble adjusting.
Today my doctor has set me home for a week, as I have mild lung issues. Feel fine tough!

But my, this is going to be a challenge, to keep my chin up. Keeping my mind from wondering about..
Started working full-time to actually get out of this house. Haha, really..

Actually I am glad I have company, good weather and a garden to enjoy. Could be worse.
How to fill these days while obligatory rest subscribed? Not sure yet, practising music, playing Nintendo, Netflix, gardening, drawing, taking a walk ( in the garden) and taking care of our pets will have to be it for now.

I think it’s important to accept the situation, that the only thing we can do to contribute is staying inside and if you can and are allowed helping out others.
And see this as any challenge in life: it happens to us and we have to make the best of it. Could still be worse. I am going to enjoy gardening and do whatever I feel like doing at the moment it occurs to me. Take a nap, play a game, eat a snack, enjoying the sun,.. How luxurious is that?
It will have to be simple pleasant things for me that hopefully won’t bore me after day 1  ???
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#3: March 18, 2020, 07:43:45 PM
We are walking to the bay and beach quite a bit and pulling out the kayaks/paddle boards.  Also many more walks, audio books, board games, kids continue to play at park.

We have had three sleepovers this week, so the kids are somewhat entertained.  I’m doing a lot of spring cleaning as well and baking/cooking up a storm.

Getting regular exercise on my smart tv(beach body), which I think is important to keep depression at bay. 

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2020-He has continued to help out when asked and be polite.  I do think he questions his choices at times.  I do not believe he has OW.
Oct 2020-He wants to get back together.  I am unsure. 
August 2021-.  He has shown very gradual, but consistent progress.  He moved back home.
December 2022-He has been home for 1 1/2 years reconnecting, in the room with me for several months. I now consider us reconciled.
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#4: March 18, 2020, 09:13:10 PM
I absolutely love audiobooks! I'm pretty much evangelical about the Audible app and part of my daily regime is to listen to audiobooks for about an hour and a half. It helps me control my thoughts while also learning about various topics. I'm currently listening to The Source, which is a positive thinking type of book, written by a neuroscientist/psychiatrist. It's really fascinating!

My D and I are lucky to live in front of a gorgeous forest and so we walk there everyday ( I'm devoted to doing the 10K steps thing).

@treasur Did you happen to get my message? I'm not sure if I did something wrong as I don't see it in my sent inbox or my general inbox so I'm wondering if I somehow accidentally deleted it. lol!

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H tricked me into moving internationally, then abducted our D for A YEAR
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What's helping me:
meditation, reading/listening to audiobooks

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#5: March 18, 2020, 11:28:19 PM
I did get your message, Brit  :)

I like Audible too. Podcasts work great for me bc I can listen to them while keeping my hands busy! My latest fave is one called On Being, available for free on Sticher, that covers all kinds of different subjects. Nice to stretch the brain a bit as well as stretching the body.
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T: 18  M: 12 (at BD) No kids.
H diagnosed with severe depression Oct 15. BD May 16. OW since April 16, maybe earlier. Silent vanisher mostly.
Divorced April 18. XH married ow 6 weeks later.


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#6: March 19, 2020, 01:20:17 AM
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Divorced April 18. XH married ow 6 weeks later.


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#7: March 19, 2020, 03:04:54 AM
I have completed my life coaching and NLP diploma and psychology foundation (very basic) certificate and so am working on developing and using online for coaching as well as constantly learning and developing my knowledge.

I am now focussed on getting house ready for sale and that means a little more work than I intended to do originally and if I don't sell (because a recession could be on the way) then at least I have a nicely decorated and clean house to live in for a while. Some of these jobs H had promised to do when we moved in in 2003 and never finished them off so now that feels like a really good goal.

Gardening - yep!

I have been asked to set up an online choir; the technology eludes me but this will be a good time to learn

I have also accepted that my one other goal can now be achieved with no excuses.  I have long wanted to write shortened and edited adaptations of a particular playwright aimed at all school ages and so now I can because I have no reason to distract me.
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#8: March 19, 2020, 03:25:56 AM
kids continue to play at park. / We have had three sleepovers this week,
Finding, this is a massive Problem and shouldnt be Happening. They have dismantled all that is possible in the parks here in Germany. Swings etc. If the Kids go to the park and meet then they just as well be at School. You are missing the Point here unfortunately. No more parks or Sleep Overs!

I personally still have to go to work, K has Homeoffice as does S20 and S21. It is Possible that my Office will shut down next week but we have to wait and see what our main customer does  >:( (a large German car Company starting with V and ending with W)
S20 is missing the Gym bigtime but he will survive, I have told him to jog/ Mountain bike through the Woods, do pressups, sit ups and skip. He is considering it :-).

I have my dart board, record Collection, my guitars and I will start painting again if I do get shut down. I will probably also do what I recommended to S20.
Stay safe People and take this seriously.
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#9: March 19, 2020, 07:23:25 AM
I still have to go in to work.  But I've curtailed anything other than that.  I check on the horses on the way home and then stay in.  I'm enjoying being lazy after work right now.  I don't get much down time.  So I'm making the most of it.  Jammies on when I hit the door and a good book or a good movie.  On my days off I go riding, horses or motorcycle, but I keep to myself and then some gardening - which I truly enjoy as well.  I mean flowers, I don't seem to have the ability to grow vegetables.  LOL.  But I love flowers so that works for me. 

I am enjoying the quiet time. 
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