[megogirl]

Mine brought a load of groceries when he came here.  I gave him dog treats (left over from when we still had custody of the family dog.)

I just typed that and realized what a sick, despicable POS he really was/is.

[OneHotMess]

Mine has been reaching out every few weeks since January. Stupid stuff... the McDonald’s employee didn’t wash his hands... a copy of a paper he got from work... and then when I told him last week that I was off until the further notice he sent a thumbs up. Then today, he asked how we are holding up. We actually had a 5 minute conversation. That has not happened in 3 years. I was shocked when he apologized about me not working.

[Milly]

OneHot, sounds like your H is snailing closer. Interesting.

[Dismiss3]

Mine H text me a few hours after my last post telling me about he messaged our D18 and how he misses her etc etc. He mentioned he had been looking at a photo of him and I (eating donuts😂) and that he just kept staring at it. He said he’s been kinda lonely (which I guessed already due to staying at his home more now). Boy dealing with someone in MLC is difficult.

[spock]

Haven't heard from MLCer for almost 6 months now, the pandemic hasn't changed anything except that he is still unemployed, probably depressed / declining mental health and haven't paid his rent because his agent kept copying me on every email trying to chase it down. I sincerely hope he's doing okay and seeking help he needs.

[barbiedoll]

Even though my husband has return from his trip to la la land, I still consider him very much a MLC'er.  Shockingly, even he has said the exact same thing.  Admits he has to continually "check" his thinking and responses. During this pandemic he has stayed very close to home ..even though he could be on the job site. He has a crew of men that are almost afraid to work and many have opted to stay home. He has accepted that and not pushed them to get back to work. THAT alone is huge. He has almost zero tolerance for "not getting the job done". Trust me... zero.  After his kidney cancer surgery , he was walking around the job site 3 days later.  He has been sensitive to my daughters frustration , she is like a crusty caged animal who is frustrated with online lesson plans, students emailing 100 times etc etc (lol).  He has made sure the water jugs are full, has done the "running around" , brought home treats ( chocolate !) and been busy finally having some time to get some things done around here. However...if the conversation veers away from the news, the virus or day to day chit-chat and there is a lull of silence....he "runs" for cover. He is almost afraid that the conversation will turn to uncomfortable topics. He will only talk "fluff" , nothing meaningful or "dangerous" in his opinion. Appears quiet and " thinky". He is my "buddy or fishin pal" ...not risking anything more significant.  And for me , that is painful.  He spent hours "purging" his office … several bags of garbage and shredding.  That ...I have never seen that happen before. He is in a high risk category for this virus and seems to be taking that very seriously . That surprises me .

[The Moon’s a balloon]

Before the lockdown began here, my W suggested I move back in.  She feared that lockdown meant one of us wouldn’t be able to see the kids.  Thankfully the rules allow for kids to be moved between separated parents, and it’s not been mentioned since.  She did come round for a takeaway the other night, when it was my weekend with our daughters and she’s offered to do Easter lunch for us all on Easter Sunday.  The weirdest bit is that’s she offered to cut my hair!  It is getting a bit long now, and all the hairdressers are shut atm.   As ever, these offers never seem to develop into anything else though, so I’m not sure I’d say my MLCer has changed due to the pandemic.
Hope everyone else is staying safe.
Moon

[Finding Joy]

It’s hard to say if he’s just bored, but it seems like there has been slow movement forward this last 6 months.  Very slow.  We have more contact right now due to everything going on and it’s friendly.  Like we are helpful neighbors.

He cares a bit more about the kids it seems like.  For sure more than he did for the first year.  It seems to be a gradual progression towards sanity, with a long ways to go.  It could be boredom, more time to think.  He has acknowledged my existence a couple of times lately. 

Usually even if we are chatty it’s about the kids, business.  This week twice he mentioned wanting to give me a break since I am now homeschooling.  He has a cough and works at a hospital so the exact opposite has happened.

I’m interested to see how Easter goes.  If his cough is gone I’m sure he’ll be over for a few hours.

He did follow me around for a few minutes a couple of weeks ago when this first started here.  He was chatty tonight on the phone.  He will be fixing my dryer when his cough clears, or trying.  He just fixed the kids bikes.  It’s hard to say if this is just coparenting or movement.  I should say the movement started with a breakup ow2, 6 months ago and him realizing he cannot love anyone right now, especially himself.

[trusting]

My H has moved home (temporarily at least) to "stay at home" with us.   To be fair, I think he is pretty well all the way out of his crisis and has been reconnecting steadily for awhile now.   It has felt so normal.  He is very much himself again, though still not my husband - but very much a dad to the kids.   

[Treasur]

BD I think was quite a few years ago, trusting? And you had been slowly reconnecting - at least as a family - for a while before virus days?

Well, for good or ill, it sounds like you are getting a close up view of the rare Lesser-Spotted Post MLCer