[Keep believing]

Nothing has changed with mine. No asking how we are doing , nothing. I do know mine thinks this  COVID 19 is  all blown out of proportion . He thinks it is no big deal. Its like the flu.  He always thinks his opinion is right. Every one else is wrong.  He is not worried at all.  Heard this from my d 28.

[Nerissa]

Well that’s a defence, so not worth taking too much notice.  Unless they are very very dense.  this strange time, especially with so much enforced quiet time which means we have to sit with our thoughts, means that every one of us has some kind of reckoning with our decisions. 

Making light of it is a way of keeping those thoughts away, either for Real or for impression management.

[KeepItTogether]

Yes I agree with Nerissa--MLCers are avoiders first and foremost. And not acknowledging the pandemic is yet another way to avoid. Mine wasn't too concerned either. And only asked about S and me the first few days after I conveyed my dismay over him not even asking about S during this crisis. So, it was likely just to appease me. But that is all over now. Back to his old MLC self(ish) now.

He was playing video games with S last week. But I realized that was only during business hours--he snuck away form his work to play with S. Never comes here after hours or on weekends. And he parks his car hidden away on the street so not to be detected. At first I though he might be trying to reconnect with S. But I realized it was him taking advantage of the fact S was home during business hours so he could see him and not get caught by OW.

[Seahorse]

No change in mine - actually even more distant.
Checked in to see if S was practicing music, but never asked how either of us is doing.

That being said, My S25 said that H did ask him about S18.

[Essential]

Yes, but I’m not sure it’s just the pandemic.
He has been trying to come closer for a while now. It’s not all coming out of thin air.

I was asking everyone how they were doing. Checking in. And I felt I wanted to ask him as well.
Since then we have been sending emails to each other. He seems caring, asks questions and he clearly wants me know some of the nice things he is doing for his family.
He also hinted he has been sitting inside a lot the last few years.
He is not being pathetic or Monster.

That’s it.
It’s nice, but don’t know what it means. And I am just taking it as it comes.

Tonight it’s two years ago since he slept with ow for the first time.
No idea about their current relationship. Hope to not care about it.
Trying to do so by thinking that time doesn’t come back and it’s nothing more then the same number of day and month, which we invented.
Today and tonight are totally new, it has nothing to do with the past. That’s just in my mind.

Stay safe

[Marchingforward]

Mine is a hot mess. He asked me to stop over and sign his absentee ballot this morning: he was near tears the entire time. Worried about his mother who is very ill as well as his daughter who is immunocompromised. Also this whole John Prine and Joe Diffie has him really upset. He said "Joe wasn't much older than I am." I mean, he really isn't doing well. He looks terrible. It's honestly hard not for me to call him and see how he is doing right now, but I know that's not what he needs. He needs to work through this. As much as I want to be there for him, that doesn't seem to be the way MLC rolls...

He's also really, really social and his job is his OW. We are on a shelter at home order, and while he can sort of work because he owns his own business, his "fame" in the industry is taking a hit because he can't travel all over the US like he could before. He's also not hanging out with his friends either so there's that too.

[Tyks]

No change with mine. Has not asked how we are. He feels if I get it everything will be fine because I am only 51 

[Milly]

No change in mine. He does ask S15 how we are, but that is probably so he can refer this information to the people who ask him. My H is as distant and mean as ever. Threatening to sue me again. Lawyer's letter arrived 2 weeks ago when we were already in lock down and I was trying to get my D22 back home with hardly any flights available. So H is not thinking about the end of the world. Actually, when the crisis exploded here where we are, H told S that it was all over blown and it was just a regular flu. I suspect H was just repeating the jargon he was fed. My H has no personality any more, just repeats phrases he thinks are cool. He might have changed his mind at this point, but I don't know.

[3Boys4Me]

Yes. Mine is contacting more often. Probably because we got sick, but even in the weeks before my S15 and I both had noticed a slight change - he came to a dr’s apt, was very chatty, wanted to keep talking as we were leaving. The pandemic has made him check in regularly. I have heard from his mom and a SIL. Shortly after BD he had informed them all that they were to have no contact with me what so ever - so it’s been nice to have them reach out. MIL sent the boys a package and a note for me too. MLCer has asked after us several times a week and he has asked the boys how I am doing on the phone - that is very different for him.

I do think he has more time to think. Which is good. And he has been in monster so long, I have to admit that seeing his kinder side has been a relief. Much more pleasant to be around.  I have zero expectations, but for me, I know he is worried about the pandemic and is taking it seriously...

[Dismiss3]

Mine has shown a bit more contact with my D23 and me (last week). Just asking both of us if everything is ok. My daughter answers him, but not me (I’m been attempting no contact🤦🏼‍♀️). I’ve posted on other link that I also think all this “safer at home” rule has him in “more feels” about stuff; because he has more alone time to think about things and not be able to “run” the streets with the OW. With the newer extended 30 day safer at home rule applied now; I’m wondering how he will respond now🤔