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My Story Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#60: November 10, 2021, 07:55:47 PM
If only it didn’t take so dang long to understand that everything on the list is 100 percent truth.

Hooray for missed trigger dates!! That is real progress right there!!
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LBS W 47
D16, S12
BD March, 2016
Left home Sept 4, 2016 - living with parents
H filed for D - July 24, 2017
D final March 14, 2018 - still living at parent's house

“You've seen my descent, now watch my rising.”
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Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#61: November 11, 2021, 12:38:08 AM
Quote from: Dumbfounded on November 10, 2021, 07:55:47 PM
If only it didn’t take so dang long to understand that everything on the list is 100 percent truth.

Quote from: Dumbfounded on November 10, 2021, 07:55:47 PM
Hooray for missed trigger dates!! That is real progress right there!!
I will admit to feeling a twinge of guilt when I realized it. Ironically, I realized it when I went to update my profile here with the face that xW was a year older
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Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#62: November 11, 2021, 10:52:55 AM
Love that list!  Closure never looks like what we thought it would. For you apparently it is forgetting xW's BDay. Nice!
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Re: Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#63: November 11, 2021, 11:33:35 AM
Love it, UM!

Funny I forgot my X's this year too, and ours are only a week apart.

Yay us!   ;D
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"From my experience if my H had let me go a long time ago, and stop pressuring me, begging, and pleading and just let go I possibly would have experienced my awakening sooner than I did."
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Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#64: November 12, 2021, 06:15:27 AM
UM -
Catching up.
Sounds like you're doing great!  The computer building with your son sounds like a great bonding experience (I did the same with my adult son recently).  And, it sounds like you handled the conversation about helping your XW with finances to cover the extra days that she cares for D11 well with less trepidation after discussing it beforehand with R.  Grounded spouses are amazing.

I built/bought my house during divorce, and it will be paid off when I'm 89-1/2!!  I'm not worried though.  It's a cozy place to live.  I'll  make extra payments when I can, and my sons should have equity in it when I die so all is good...  I hope that your house across the street comes through at a reasonable price for you.

I see that the list of 100 was removed, but I would love to see it.  Not sure if you removed it planning on replacing it or not.

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Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#65: November 12, 2021, 06:35:27 AM
List of 100?  There is a list on the previous page but it is shorter... I think that is the one you might have meant...
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Me - 61, xW - 54
Together 19 years - Married 17 at separation & 21 at D-Day
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BD#1 - August 2015
Atomic BD - 13 Dec 2015
House sold & separated - Mar 2016
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A "friend" will not "stand by you" no matter what you do. That is NOT a friend. That is an enabler. That is an accomplice.
A REAL friend will sit you down and tell you to your face to stop being a firetrucking idiot before you ruin your life and the lives of those around you.
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Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#66: November 12, 2021, 11:19:11 AM
Sorry Um - I must be confused (nothing new).  I saw this and thought it was "the list" that people are talking about, but there is no attachment even though it looks like there's an image connected.    :o

Quote from: UrsaMajor on November 09, 2021, 12:17:39 AM
A good friend of mine who happens to be an Episcopal Priest posted this on her timeline and I thought "Well, isn't THAT an LBS Mantra!"  Whether it is "Moving On" in the sense that it is used here or "Moving Forward in Life While Standing" or even "Recovering one's equilibrium while deciding what to do next."  There are some things that are simply outside our control and to recognize/accept that is one of the first (and hardest) things for us to deal with....


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Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#67: November 14, 2021, 03:52:20 AM
Quote from: Seahorse on November 12, 2021, 11:19:11 AM
Sorry Um - I must be confused (nothing new).  I saw this and thought it was "the list" that people are talking about, but there is no attachment even though it looks like there's an image connected.    :o

OK, this is odd... I see the image on my PC but not when I look on my phone.... Hmmmmmmm
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Me - 61, xW - 54
Together 19 years - Married 17 at separation & 21 at D-Day
S - 17, D - 13
1 Dog
BD#1 - August 2015
Atomic BD - 13 Dec 2015
House sold & separated - Mar 2016
Divorce final 30 August 2019
Moved on in life
Survival Instructions for Newbies
Site Map
 
A "friend" will not "stand by you" no matter what you do. That is NOT a friend. That is an enabler. That is an accomplice.
A REAL friend will sit you down and tell you to your face to stop being a firetrucking idiot before you ruin your life and the lives of those around you.
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Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#68: November 14, 2021, 06:30:15 PM
Just catching up...
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Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#69: November 16, 2021, 05:12:12 AM
UM- can I say that your responses on threads are a dose of humor with reality that is beyond amazing. It literally makes me laugh each day due to them. There is a lot to say about being able to laugh at the craziness!!
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There is almost something harder about someone being alive and having to lose what you believed to be true of them than someone actually dying.

Indefatigability - determined to do or achieve something; firmness of purpose
perspicacity- a clarity of vision or intellect which provides a deep understanding and insight

Married July 1991
Jan 2018 BD1 moved out I filed for Div/ H stopped it
Oct 2018 moved back
Oct 2020 BD2
Feb 2021 Div-29 1/2 years
July 2021 Married OW
Feb 2022  XH fired
June 2022 XH bring OW to meet family due to xMIL illness
May 2023 went NC after telling XH we could not be friends
Aug 2023 XH moves w/o OWife
May 2024 xMIL visits XH/OW in their new home
Aug 2024 cut relations w/XH fam.
Dec 2024 D33 expecting baby ( XH not told)
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