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My Story Radical Acceptance is the New Black
#150: January 23, 2026, 06:11:08 PM
I moved. In so many ways! Out in Tenn and loving it. No chickens but a lovely new Golden puppy and a new home I built and chose every inch of. I just wanted to report back that I AM HAPPY, joyous even. I haven’t met anyone romantically- but I’ve been getting to know myself again- without the marriage I’m finding my own edges again. It was painstaking but I can honestly say that I wouldn’t change where I am. I feel I’m exactly where I’m meant to be. My ex is restless and regretful, lots of plaintive comments on social and pleading messages with me and the kids for contact. No one wants to talk to him. I feel sad that we ended up here - sad for all of us even him - but I take zeros
Ownership of his relationships with our kids anymore. I’m done being a bridge. I remember two years ago, coming to this group
So broken, I couldn’t breathe, I couldn’t relax - I’m grateful
Forever for the people who helped me get thru that dark time. But i wanted to check back in and say that joy really did come in the morning.
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#151: January 24, 2026, 03:17:18 PM
Amazing, I’m happy you found joy again. Like you, I’m very thankful for this group here. Congratulations on your new home. Keep moving forward. You’re doing a great job as a parent. And keep discovering yourself. I learned a lof of new things about myself. I still stumble at times when I’m reminded of my ex but those moments are short. I believe one day, we all get to a point where when we are reminded of them, they will just be a distant memory.
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Me 43 at BD
H    45 at BD
Married 11 yrs at BD, no kids,
BD May 2019 (I moved out Nov 2019)
EA or PA with ex gf (not sure), H spent 3 nights with the hoe during our vacation in July 2019, it was a friendly encounter according to H
H wanted D April 2020 seeing suspected OW2 (divorced with two kids) and 2 years older than him, H didn’t file the D
Clinging boomerang
6/21 H moved in with me; kicked him out 01/22
H turned into a vanisher, wants a Divorce, OW 3 (16 years younger and extreme sporty)
14.11.22 Divorce final, I'm done
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Radical Acceptance is the New Black
#152: January 26, 2026, 02:22:54 AM
Boy, I haven't had to do one of these in a LONG time....

Time for a new thread!

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Me - 62, xW - 55
Together 19 years - Married 17 at separation & 21 at D-Day
S - 18, D - 14
1 Dog
BD#1 - August 2015
Atomic BD - 13 Dec 2015
House sold & separated - Mar 2016
Divorce final 30 August 2019
Moved on in life
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