[Shantilly Lace]

Up until just before Xmas he had nothing to do with his friends and now he has one friend the was our friend. He still is my friend but I am just happy H has started to connect with someone.  Anyone.

He still has nothing to do with his closest friends though which is sad. They are waiting for him though only one has decided never to have anything to do with him. Which I find terribly sad. They did soo much together. I think the alienator drags him into their life their friends and in some cases they assume their friends as their own.

H has never said that keeping ow's friends as not his friends and her family as hers. A comment I made as ow sis had a baby about him being an uncle again (wasn't meant as a dig just a natural comment ugh) had him furious. H has been different to some MLCs here in many ways tho.

[LoveMeMyself]

My exH didn't really have any true male friends.  We had his brother and his wife as our going places together but and very few "social friends"...........most of the people were work related friends.  He claims he didn't know how to make friends........tried to invite guys for lunch and or go out for a drink/dinner but he said when they refuse or can't go for whatever reason then he's "done"...........doesn't try again.  It's like he has issues with knowing how to be a friend.  Since he left me though he has made slight referrals to being with a "friend" or speaks of a single female who lives in the same apartment complex.  He dumped his OW a while back and claims that he regrets being with her and doesn't have anything else to do with her but I don't honestly know that for a fact.  I also don't know if he is seeing someone even though he told me back in November that he wasn't involved with anyone.  He once sent me a picture of cats via text message and said he was "visiting friends".  He used the term "friends" a lot in the beginning (even referred to OW as just a "friend"........and that he didn't have very many).  So, maybe the issue of not knowing how to make friends is something he needs to work on.  Who knows?

[mercury]

Friends, was a huge issues for my jacka**, he didn't have any, didn't know how to relate. He keep screaming that he and I didn't have any friends. Friends, friends, that was huge with him, Well he end up making friends with 20 year old ones who weren't married and this is when he reached out to the $l()t (I believe).  One day he made me list all my friends, and he had to count his too. He had more then me and laugh at me.  However red necks, who fish into a bucket in there living room is not my idea of a friend, or someone who will sleep with a married man, not friend  material. I don't have a lot of friends, (outside of all you here that is) I'm careful, who I trust and I enjoy my time. I don't need a large quantity of friends, I never have. I personally don't think that is bad but he did. Well, that is me, and still is. I remember when my D did this a few years ago, counting friends, probably where he got the idea. Anyways, he didn't have many friends only one, and he goes over and talks about how horrible a wife I was to him. He told me he is pretty sure my H is miserable. Good is all I can say to that, not miserable enough to dump the $l()t, but not living the life we all envision them to be. He carried on to D one day a few months ago, that they (choke, choke) are just a home bodies. So maybe this friend obsession has passed. However I doubt he faced not one issue, so it and all the rest will be back. And guess what its her problem not mine. Like I said, she wanted to walk in my shoes, well b!tc# you got it.

Little pissy today, well ok a lot

[Red Star]

It's hard to say with my H cuz he lies so much about/around ow situation. I know he started teaching classes to a group of herwork-friends years ago. Was she in the class? Maybe, IDK. Right after BD this group of people started to become his social circle outside of the classes, ow included. He also dated ow alone every week. Around the holidays h went to several occassions with these people. He claims he was the only 'single' guy there.    That doesn't mean that ow wasn't there. She may have been there with her husband. Wonder what happened on the overnight at the camp?    As far as h's old friends, he went to see them once, told them he was divorcing, and then he hasn't seen them since. Not sure what that means. Whenever he had time/energy he chose dating ow over seeing old buddies.
BStar

[wondering]

My H pushed everyone away except one friend while he was with Ow. Now that he ended the affair , he has reconnected with several friends.   He lives with me but not ready to reconnect and recommit with me. Maybe he never will with me but wants his friends back..who knows.

[limitless]

My H has pretty much isolated himself, from what I can see.
I think his main communication is with his parents and his high school girlfriend (who lives in another state - but seems quite willing to come to see him).

He has cut off pretty much everyone else - including his kids.

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[ForeverHopefulOne]

My H isolated himself from his "normal" friends for a looooong time.  He only surrounded himself with people that agreed with what he was doing - those people being "new" friends that didn't know me!  With the exception of one mutual friend, who recently told my H that his girlfriend was a freak and to go back to his wife - haha!

[readytofixmyselffirst]

My w has also isolated herself and basically only has her friends online. It is a combination of guilt and not wanting to face the fact of having to talk about om with other people.

[Butterfly]

My h has never had lots of close friend's. Gets along with everybody but only close to three or four people. He has adopted OWs friend's and family. They rarely interact with his family. I am not aware of them meeting any of our mutual friend's. Most of whom would never speak to him again as long as he's with her.

Butterfly

[Buggy31]

My H never had a lot of male friends...and this came up at the start of his MLC...the lack of close male R...and he blamed OUR R for it...saying I was the reason he didn't have these connections...Well I HAVE CLOSE AUTHENTIC FRIENDSHIPS and I've been in a R with H all these years so why hasn't it prevented ME from finding friendship..He tended to be close friends with woman/girls most of his life.  It never bothered me ...he was flirty and a good guy and I NEVER felt threatend...EVER...I always trusted him and he NEVER cheated on me....I KNOW this for sure...the reason I know is because when he was cheating on me my intuition told me...it was screaming at me...I had visions of it..I had signs everwhere...and I had all these knowings but no evidence so it drove me crazy. 

My feeling is that it is OW's family perhaps and maybe her friends.