[LeaveThePastBehind]

"The children are now reluctant to go to church and generally don't go any more with the exception of middle son (he was cured from cancer, so maybe that makes a difference for him)."


Oh, Mitzpah, just wanted to say it was very touching to read this line.

[Wed2Him?Whatever.]

At BD, my H told me that he was sick of the same old thing.  He brought up church as an example and said, "I may never go to church again.  Don't know."  (He kept going a few months after that and then quit.)  He made it sound like the only reason was he'd grown tired of the same-ness of our life together.  Then later on in July, when he had a Monster spew of epic proportions against me, he mocked and ridiculed everything about God, and was so angry at God and me both.  He blamed God for letting his grandfather die.  It had happened back in 1993 but hearing him talk, it was like the wounds were fresh.  He had reacquainted himself with some old school chums and many (if not all) are apathetic, are agnostic or are atheistic and my gut tells me this is no coincidence.  About a month or so ago, my H mentioned he'd wanted to go back to church with me but has not mentioned it since, and makes no effort to go with me now.  I get sad about that.  I do miss him going.

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Some of our best friends in the area are from the local church.  W has not been in contact with any of them in over six months.  They where our family friends.  My oldest D16 expressed an interest in going to church at least twice a month and w ridiculed her.  I am not 100% sure, but everything I can see traces back to a woman's group bible study thing almost 3 years ago. 

Some of the other woman in the group where making sweeping generalizations about life and  how glade they where that it was not them and they where grate.  My wife said you can't say stuff like that... you don't know who's life is what or how. 

Knowing full well that the life they where describing was her life in her teenage years.  My W felt small and useless and I know it bugged her because she talked about it all the time... I also think it was about the same time she started changing.  Again I know there where other factors age... few grey hairs, last kid in full time kindergarten.  Same said unersolved childhood issues.  All the stars aligned for a perfect storm :/

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