[crazyforhim]

Mitzpah...me too!
I think my H stuck his head out and then seemed to crawl back in but he is cycling so really
who knows. I see so many moments of clarity and then I figure he is very scared but they will have to deal eventually...

[justasking]

And we need to be mindful that they might be able to, especially if they have the money etc needed. But if they follow their journey to healing then they won't because they have to move forward. Moving forward is out of replay. I am not saying that is easy as they hang on and hang on just as RCR says in her liminality information. This is a process which needs completing.....eventually.

Sometimes though we also need to remember that our H might choose to stay with the OW. That might be because they are stuck or because they choose to. None of us knows the outcome. It is my understanding that few get stuck.

All our fears are that our H/W will get stuck and not find the true happiness they are looking for, which hopefully will be with us in a new relationship.

Never give up hope and trust God and your intuition. He has it all in his hands and his time.

xx

[Mitzpah]

All our fears are that our H/W will get stuck and not find the true happiness they are looking for, which hopefully will be with us in a new relationship.

Never give up hope and trust God and your intuition. He has it all in his hands and his time.

xx

Thank you Just Asking for your reassuring words. I need them.

[Trustandlove]

I know my H saw fantasy and reality collide a few times, what with several failed jobs/business ventures, a number of OW that didn't work, all sorts of things.  Each time he chose to keep on running, to keep on trying to find the one thing that would work.

During all these times he would be overtly either depressed, or act very weird (not just me saying it), or just disappear.   That was for the first 3.5 years, when he went up and down practically predictably. 

This is different, and not in a good way for me. 

I'll admit that to some this time he seems much more "normal"; i.e. that this scenario that he's currently in is working for him.  Now I don't know what is going on regarding business, and he has written saying how much financial pressure he's under, so I know it isn't all fun and games, but he puts on a good mask.

Although to others, and by that I mean long-time friends and community members, he seems completely off his rocker.  Dressing like he's 20, being hard work to be around, and so on and so on. 

The reality that he seems to be choosing to not deal with is the hurt and pain he's causing; he's doing a pretty good job of just saying well, I want this, I've moved on, so just accept it.  And some are buying it. 

I have no idea what else it might take.   

[crazyforhim]

TandL, I hear you there! Mine seems to cycle but also seems to be saying to the world...my marriage is over, I am doing what I want...yahoo!!! So I guess until they are ready to deal...this is what we get!