[stayed]

I think they catch a train into the past..question is..do they ever realize they are going the wrong way ?...sad thing is..its usually a one way ticket

Well that was sufficiently melancholy enough to make me want to SLIT MY WRISTS!  Why bother trying then?  Just walk away, go lick your wounds somewhere else.  We are the creators of our own destiny.  Only we can make ourselves happy... not our spouse, kids, family... JUST US!  I have also found if you expect the WORST, you are pretty much assured of getting it.

Let's hope she got a "return ticket" ... hugs Stayed

[honour]

I think they catch a train into the past..question is..do they ever realize they are going the wrong way ?...sad thing is..its usually a one way ticket

My W took a plane. It was a one way ticket.

honour

[Doc Hudson]

I think they catch a train into the past..question is..do they ever realize they are going the wrong way ?...sad thing is..its usually a one way ticket

So true.

[Dr. NO]

  Strange thing, a couple of weeks ago I was thinking, there really are not a lot of guys on here that post much. Being a guy I like to read the guys more so than anything, all of a sudden L2 shows up! Now I am thinking wtf happened to us, this was a busy forum, now we got invaded. Very different but it is growing on me. I spent to much time on here this weekend trying to keep up. I think the mix of the guys and gals is good. Hfb

Join us at the wild party on Lifttwo.com (My wife is having midlife crisis, please help.....thread).  It is fun, educational and offers support.

[BonBon]

Having been on both sites for quite some time, I think that what Stayed wrote a few posts above is worth considering.  Lifetwo is a great place...but...there are more people here, more archival information, and more stories of reconcilliation...and when none seemed possible.

If there is anyone who experienced what seemed like a one way ticket, only to have found the train returned to the home base forever and eventually in a much more enjoyable version, it is Stayed.
If you want to see that hope is possible, read Stayed's story.

Bon

[Thundarr]

I think they catch a train into the past..question is..do they ever realize they are going the wrong way ?...sad thing is..its usually a one way ticket

Well that was sufficiently melancholy enough to make me want to SLIT MY WRISTS!  Why bother trying then?  Just walk away, go lick your wounds somewhere else.  We are the creators of our own destiny.  Only we can make ourselves happy... not our spouse, kids, family... JUST US!  I have also found if you expect the WORST, you are pretty much assured of getting it.

Let's hope she got a "return ticket" ... hugs Stayed

Stayed,

You crack me up!!  If you didn't come from experience I'd think you're crazy (may still be, ha!) but I know you are very wise in this.  Honour's follow-up was equally humorous yet filled with great sadness.  Ultimately, we are all unable to see from each other's perspective despite our shared experiences.  But, I for one hope and pray to be where you are one day Stayed.

[stayed]

Well attitude is nine tenths the journey Thundarr!  It won't happen on it's own and it won't happen by expecting the skies to fall.  You FIX you first. Then see how the rest looks later.

Oh, I wasn't trying to be funny!

hugs Stayed...

[WarriorPriestess]

We are the creators of our own destiny.  Only we can make ourselves happy... not our spouse, kids, family... JUST US!  I have also found if you expect the WORST, you are pretty much assured of getting it.

Agreed!   

[honour]

We are the creators of our own destiny.  Only we can make ourselves happy... not our spouse, kids, family... JUST US!  I have also found if you expect the WORST, you are pretty much assured of getting it.

Agreed!   

I am an advocate of being optimistic, of looking on the bright side. Giving oneself positive affirmations and giving thanks for the good things we have. For over two decades, every day I would give thanks for having a wonderful wife and two healthy children. Today I do not have a wife.

We may have some influence on how we react to the events that befall us but destiny itself may be beyond our influence.

honour

[stayed]

Our lives are not over yet, Honour!  Perhaps our destinies have not yet been reached, or there are more then one, in fact, perhaps there are many! 

All I know, it is not always what we expect but it usually is for the best.  We can argue about the logic, our faiths, whatever, but we honestly NEVER know for sure what lies ahead.

Be strong, be kind to yourself, let the process do its work...

hugs Stayed