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MLC Monster Re: Emotional Abuse and a Narcissistic MLCer...is this the exception to standing?
#10: July 08, 2012, 08:40:56 PM
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Right now you are at the beginning so your spinning trying to figure out which it is...the bottom line is it could be one or the other or BOTH.  My H is in MLC for sure yet I also feel very strongly that their is a PD alongside.  Either way you need to detach and create a life for yourself and understand that your H must fix this...and you must save yourself.  As SS posted...life is filled with too much uncertainity to miss our on the livin' to be done right now...really and I say that because as you learn this lesson what your H is going through will matter less and less because LIFE will be more important.  I hope you understand that I've been where you are and feeling your feelings is KEY however yucky they are...they will not last forever and you will find more joy on the otherside of the grief and loss for your H.  Take care of yourself.
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Re: Emotional Abuse and a Narcissistic MLCer...is this the exception to standing?
#11: July 08, 2012, 08:45:23 PM
BUGS,

Good to see you post....

You sound good...and strong.  Hope you and the kids are doing okay.

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Re: Emotional Abuse and a Narcissistic MLCer...is this the exception to standing?
#12: July 11, 2012, 03:50:22 AM
Thanks L,
Yes we are living life ....and moving through the process of grief together as a family.  I have learned to accept uncertainity which has been the hardest part of this journey.  I will  update soon..although its a lot of the same. 

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BD-Spring of 2009 EA
H Filed 09/2010
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