[Left behind children at BD - are they girls, boys or a mix of both? What ages? Is there any pattern to this? Any correlation between Sex of MLCer and Sex of LBChildren.]

Left behind children at BD - are they girls, boys or a mix of both?  What ages?  Is there any pattern to this? Any correlation between Sex of MLCer and Sex of LBChildren.

Boys

12 (6.2%)

Girls

15 (7.7%)

Both boys and girls

20 (10.3%)

Sex of MLCer - Male

35 (18%)

Sex of MLCer - Female

6 (3.1%)

Age of children - preschooler

2 (1%)

Age of children - 5 - 12yrs

15 (7.7%)

Age of children - Teenagers

30 (15.5%)

Age of children - 20 yrs and older

17 (8.8%)

Is the gender of the MLCer the same as the gender of ALL the left behind children? YES

12 (6.2%)

Is the gender of the MLCer the same as the gender of ALL the left behind children? NO

30 (15.5%)

Total Members Voted: 47

[kikki]

This is something that I have wondered about - would be interesting to see if there is any link between the gender of the MLCer and the gender of the Left Behind Children. 

Okay - this may not work - it only seems to be able to let me check one vote per poll.
Have I set this up incorrectly?  Anyone able to help please?

[justasking]

Kikki

Not sure you will get the answers you want. I just tried to put in mixed sex children but they are teenagers and 20 somethings. It won't let me put more than one tick in 

xx

[kikki]

Thanks JA - I had the same problem.  Have PM'd OP to see if there's anything I can do to change it so we can put in multiple responses.

[OldPilot]

Try it now

[kikki]

Thanks very much OP.
I've reset it, so if anyone has tried to vote, do you want to try again - Thanks.

OP has set it for up to four checks each. 

[OldPilot]

Thanks very much OP.
I've reset it, so if anyone has tried to vote, do you want to try again - Thanks.

OP has set it for up to four checks each.

OK I changed it to 6 checks, whcih should take care of almost everyone. 

[kikki]

Thanks very much OP

[theheartknows]

This is indeed interesting. I have wondered if having a virile teenage son in the house, when my MLC was diagnosed with low testosterone was not the straw for the camel. I can remember a couple of years later going to my son's apartment at his college and seeing a Kama Sutra poster on his wall. I remember making some comment that drew attention to it and then later thinking "this must be humiliating for my husband." The am guessing that the energy of a young sexually active man must cause some friction...it certainly does in animal families!

[calamity]

I am almost positive that having my daughter's boyfriend around [living with us] had an negative affect on my h.  I mean, the energy alone in a 22 yo is daunting!  & so far the poll shows a lot of mlcers with teenage & 20's children.

[NoRegrets]

I wonder if the same-sex teen leaving the home or getting ready to leave is a major stimulus--or in CalamityJ's case, seeing the boyfriend--a sort of family member--enjoying the "replay" life.

My xH started his EA immediately after our oldest son left for college.


On the other hand, xH had been trying in vain (at least, I think it was always in vain...) to have an affair from the day we met.