[initforlonghaul]

Besides me, how many people hate this increasing technology world.   I hate facebook, my space, yahoo messenger, texting and cell phones.   I believe this technology is making it easier for spouses, or loved ones to start straying and starting affairs.   I believe technology has caused an increase in relationship problems.

I hate it all!!!!

[Broken Hearted]

As someone whose just lost her H to another woman H 'met' on Facebook I can see your point.  But there are equal amounts of goods and bads with the internet. Just think about it this way: I may have lost my H because of the internet, but i've met wonderful supportive people on this forum - something I would not have done if I didn't have internet.

[HeartsBlessing]

initforlonghaul,

Not to knock your feelings, you have every right to have them, but if someone is determined to have an affair, they are going to do it, regardless of WHAT MEDIUM is in place or the current technology.


The idea of cheating, etc, has been around for a very long time, long before all this jump in technology...the current technology may make it easier, but the thing is, the responsibility, fault, and problem lays at the feet of the CHEATER, not the medium used to do it.

Broken Hearted has a point about there being equal amounts of good and bad within the internet.

Your rant is a valid one, but the above reflects my take on today's technological advances.

Years ago, in 2000, cell phones were a new technology, and the internet was barely off the ground, as I recall.....and my husband was contacting his OW with his cell phone, from late 1999 'til late 2001.

It never occurred to me to blame the advancing technology for his affair when I discovered that..his affair was HIS fault, regardless of what was used to conduct it.

The initial bomb I got in 2001, was discovering that he was accessing internet porn....but, again, it never occurred to me to blame the internet for his weakness...his weakness was his own problem.

My point is, regardless of the medium used to carry out their weaknesses..the RESPONSIBILITY belongs solely to them for their actions.

That's my two cents on it.

[OldPilot]

HB

I am sure 50 years ago people used telephones to do it. You know that "NEW technology"

LOLOLOL

[StillStanding]

Not to knock your feelings, you have every right to have them, but if someone is determined to have an affair, they are going to do it, regardless of WHAT MEDIUM is in place or the current technology.

I do think that Facebook and similar social sites (not to mention MMORPGs like World of Warcraft) make it easier for a spouse who lonely/hurting/MLCing to make a connection, but I would have to see a study that shows a correlation between the rise in divorce/infidelity rates and the rise of such sites before I blame them; as others have said, they're just a tool.

If your spouse wasn't looking up old friends/flings on Facebook they would be meeting someone at the grocery store, a book signing, the company Christmas party, a PTA meeting...

[StillStanding]

I am sure 50 years ago people used telephones to do it. You know that "NEW technology"

This reminds me of a radio commercial that I heard a long time ago; a cranky old guy who hated change proclaimed that color TV was "just a fad!"

[HeartsBlessing]

HB

I am sure 50 years ago people used telephones to do it. You know that "NEW technology"

LOLOLOL

Since I wasn't around quite that long ago...I'll have to take your word for it, OP....LOLOLOLOLOLOL!!!!

On a more serious note...each time technology has made an advance, it's made things easier all the way around for good AND bad to happen.

 

[OldPilot]

HB

I am sure 50 years ago people used telephones to do it. You know that "NEW technology"

LOLOLOL

Since I wasn't around quite that long ago...I'll have to take your word for it, OP....LOLOLOLOLOLOL!!!!

On a more serious note...each time technology has made an advance, it's made things easier all the way around for good AND bad to happen.

 

Thanks,
I guess you will.

[Love being on higher grounds]

Ill chime in here too...

if someone is gonna cheat...they are gonna cheat...technology may make it a little easier to be in contact but it is still the individuals that commit the actual acts...

hugs,
L

[Trustandlove]

I'll add my bit...

I've also felt frustrated by technology, for all the reasons cited; I equally see the good that it does.  E-mail, for example, has let me keep in touch with friends from high school that I never would have continued writing "proper" letters to after 20 years....

And definitely forums like this; we all feel the benefits. 

The argument can go both ways; I get frustrated by my kids' being glued to a screen for so long, but I'm sure someone used to say that I "always had my nose in a book". 

But then again I'm not on FB....