[WarriorPriestess]

This seemed like a fitting article:
http://shine.yahoo.com/event/makeover/being-the-grown-up-the-kid-in-you-always-wanted-1721065/;_ylt=ArumuLnfgid2f_IjpLRmzgGNb6U5

[LeaveThePastBehind]

That's a very good point Annej. My honeypie was a happy, happy person all the time. He was a joker, a laugher, a clown and so very funny. And me... I was playful and happy but then it hit me one day... I was in a relationship since I was 13 years old and then issues arose in said relationship that I just didn't have the tools to handle properly, at the time. I feel so guilty that I was the downer in the relationship. I often wonder if things would be different between us if we had met later in life.


The little girl in me also loves to make jewelry, play with polymer clay ( I make awesome stuff  ) , design stuff, draw, come up with random ideas and inventions, decorate, wraps gifts, look at pretty colors ( I only wear black on sad occasions ), cherish all of the toys from her childhood and LOves Clay-mation films and musicals  .

[WarriorPriestess]

I think we need an inner child play date!   

[Anjae]

Nice feature, WP.

Our MCLers cannot be using their inner child. As stated in the feature point 1, kids know right and wrong pretty well. MLCers are teenagers. No longer know right and wrong and want to break all the rules.

I think a lot like I were a child. To a child, if a MCLer spouse would be back it would not make sense if the LBS still loved the MCLer, not take the MLCer back. Sadly, adults world is not so easy...Or is it?...

[Anjae]

Star, I do not know if meeting latter in life would had make a difference. Many people meet later in life. It does not prevent a MLC (unless it had already happened) and it does make them that much better dealing with issue in a relashionship.

Of course if one is 45, 50, 60 or more years old, had lived a serious relashionship, let's say, has lievd a spouse MLC, then, yes, I think it can make a huge difference.

[Mamma Bear]

  Great topic..I learned early on that life is short and should be lived fully. Maybe it was my attraction to senior citizens at a young age. I would always love to talk with old neighbors and check on them.
   When I used to be a retail pharmacist I loved when the elderly would come bug the crap out of me over every single thing under the sun!
   They taught me stuff. One guy was at The Storming of Normandy!
   One lady adopted a baby like Helen Keller.
   I can always be found totally goofing off even if I am at work. My co-workers don't like it if I am not there.  Actually I am their boss but I don't act like it unless they are stealing narcotics and that's a whole other ball of wax. DEA FBI gets ugly.   Anyway I will actually put a styrofoam cooler lid on top of two stacks of books and talk Japanese and break it with my forehead.  and singing and dancing around the house etc painting landscapes,  playing with kids sleigh riding water parks no more rollercoasters ...christmas lights...cookies...puppies..babies  grasshoppers and lightning bugs in jars..........the ocean   the mountains   my friends on hero's spouse

[wondering]

I remember jumping some neighbors fence with a few other girls and skinny dipping in their pool one night. I was naked in the hot tub (by myself) last night....does that count? It didn't seem as thrilling.   I also remember jumping off some bridge with my old boyfriend...it took me 40 minutes to let go of the railing...I don't think I'm up for that either 

[Synicca]

Back in my younger days...we would go to this mountain area..where there was natural water slides....and a 80 foot drop off
to a pool of water.....took me an hour to get up the nerve to jump, but I did it!

I used to do so much...ride dirtbikes, climb cliffs....jump in mud puddles..lol

Dance in the rain.....My H would get so upset at me for doing some of these things....It would terrify him if something
happened to me...He was/is always afraid I am going to get hurt...maybe that is why I stopped..who knows!

But bringing back that childhood feeling is good....keeps the heart young!

When I was really young, I used to swim in ditches and slide stomach first down grape vine water holes..I had no fear!
Time to find that again!

[Thundarr]

I don't think I've ever lost my inner child.  I've collected comic books since I was 6 years old and have been into video games since around 10 and still am.  I got into collecting toys (action figures) before S6 was born and now he is into all the same things I am.  In fact, he is my excuse to be hanging out at Toys R Us and Best Buy sometimes!!  I still have all my collections and my mom never threw any of my old toys out, so S6 gets to play with original Star Wars figures and Masters of the Universe too along with his new toys.  He's playing a super-hero video game as I type this.  Truly a chip off the old block!!  On that note, guess what the first things my W told me she "disliked" about me were they day she told me she disliked 95% about me?

I also don't think I lost the optimism from my childhood either.  Having worked with teenagers the past 12 years along with having an 18 year-old and being married to a teenager now, I have alot of perspectives that I haven't lost sight of.   I like to sing out loud around the house as well as dance goofily and my kids think I'm great for it.  Maybe I'm setting myself up for an MLC but I don't think so.  I am able to function as an adult when I need to.

Great topic, Syn!

[Anjae]

...and being married to a teenager now, I have alot of perspectives that I haven't lost sight of.   I like to sing out loud around the house as well as dance goofily and my kids think I'm great for it.  Maybe I'm setting myself up for an MLC but I don't think so.  I am able to function as an adult when I need to.

Thundarr, I had tottaly forgot we are married to teenagers! 

They are able to function as adults as well. Otherwise they would not be able to get lawyers, divorces, court, and all those adult stuff. That is why MLC is so mad and hurtful, teenagers with adults skills and knowledge.

Nope, don't think you're on you way to a MLC. or maybe we all are.