[Albatross]

Previous thread REPLAY - #2 thread.

Generally MLC is long about 2 - 7 year in women and 2 - 9 years in men.

Anyway RCR wrote this:
"Separation of the persona from the ego is the outcome of Separation--the stage is the process of these two parts becoming separate. Once the persona and ego become separate, the midlifer enters Liminality."


Merger with the shadow: "As Jung knew from personal experience — one, three, seven years, more or less."

Question is if Merger with the shadow start in Liminality then Liminality and rebirth will last 2 -7 years in women and 2 -9 years in men.

We all know that REPLAY is longest phase in MLC. So, how I look at this is that in REPLAY phase start Merger with shadow. In further posts I will try to elaborate that.

[panda]

Attaching.  Great thread.

[Breakingthecycle]

Me too, I've found this helpful

[panda]

Albatross,  I have witnessed both childlike behaviour and teenage behaviour from my H in Replay.  I would be interested in hearing more on the separation/persona/ego  if you have any further info.

[PatienceGalore]

I am echoing Panda, I would love more of that, as I see both an immature and mature person in my H, depending on the day. I am a bit confused by him, so I stay as far away as possible. Albatross, I took a cue from you, and I have created that safe zone, and H is very comfortable with that, and talks a lot more when we are together, which is very infrequent...but he recognises we do need to talk, so I leave it for him to initiate THAT conversation! He is seeing a therapist (same as mine) and some very interesting things have come out....he has huge resentment towards me, and that is why he had the affair. maybe he tried to punish me? Would that be something they do? he has acknowledged he never loved her, he loved the sex part (yeah...thanks, makes me feel so good about myself!!)
I am very interested in the ego explanations...

[31andcounting]

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[Lanzo]

he has huge resentment towards me, and that is why he had the affair. maybe he tried to punish me ? Would that be something they do?  he has acknowledged he never loved her, he loved the sex part (yeah...thanks, makes me feel so good about myself!!) I am very interested in the ego explanations

All this rings true with my W, I too am looking for more insite into the mechanics of replay


Lanzo

[PatienceGalore]

Maddening, Lanzo, isn't it???

[Anjae]

To pick from the old thread. Jojo, I don't sound, or am, sugary at all. My
husband is the one who thinks I was being such but I was not, I was only trying a new approach (I'm straightforward, blunt even so sugary would never do). I also was not going around things, somewhere in one of my threads I've wrote that talk, but, to him, somehow it sounded different and he was suspicious.

Still, it makes no difference, there does not seem to be a way of him to leave his addictions. In 15 days it will be 7 years since he left, by this point I no longer have any more time, or patience, for him. It is really going to have to be up to him go change, and, if he chooses to, to contact me. I may contact me if my lawyer truly wants me to but that will be it.

I think there is a big for LBS who have to deal with litigious divorces with their MLCer and for those who don't. Hostility is part of the whole court game/theatrics and of lawyers ways. It requires a lot to ignore it all and the best way is to not talk to the MLCer while such things are going on.

Snowdrop, this board/site is full of Jung. That is how I found the site. I was looking for MLC + Jung. RCR talks a lot about Jung, and others that follow Jung thought but with modifications, in the articles and blog posts.

My old threads have a lot of Jung and there were times when we seem to talk about nothing but Jung around here. 

[Snowdrop]

Anjae, thats a lot of jung

So I've been reading it and didn't even really know? 

Thanks.