[What What is the status of your wedding ring?]

What What is the status of your wedding ring?

Still wear your wedding ring

42 (35.3%)

If not is it on a necklace, other hand or something

6 (5%)

Have it safely tucked away

60 (50.4%)

Gave it back

7 (5.9%)

Never had one never needed one

4 (3.4%)

Total Members Voted: 118

[artsy2863]

We are supposed to meet up on Sunday-- will have been 1 week since he left.

I'm Standing- should I wear the ring? He stopped wearing his a year ago.

What do you all do?

Edit - Merged with previous thread - OldPilot

[Split open and melt]

I've taken mine off. I need to detach. Don't need constant reminders of a marriage that no longer exists in her eyes.

[artsy2863]

yes- there's my dilemma. I'm trying to Pave the Way, but I also need to detach.

Maybe I'll just wear it when he's around...

[Breakingthecycle]

After a year of not wearing mine, and feeling very 'naked', I recently bought a small cheap gold ring with three teeny tiny ( use a microscope to see them) diamonds.  For me, it represents the next three years that we are tied together with our business.  For the next three years I will stand and then re-evaluate the situation.

I wore the ring for the first time the other day.  I'm sure that H noticed but he hasn't said anything, then again, he probably wouldn't know if it was my wedding ring or not, he never took any notice beforehand!

[JD]

I am still not wearing mine.
The mark they left on my finger is permanent, however.

[31andcounting]

might of commented before, unsure    I wore mine always....then decided to take it off after H said "it's just a piece of metal"   I realized it was keeping me from "letting go of the rope" so I removed it in February this year and have decided that,  for myself, I will never wear it again.  We are reconnecting/reconciling after 7 years in crisis, 3+ since BD.  If H asks about putting our rings on again, I will decline.  I want and need a NEW commitment, as that old one (as precious as it was) is gone! a new ring?? maybe but maybe not, just a true commitment might be all I need.
31andcounting

[Lanzo]

I had now idea where my wedding ring was, I took it off after W first went off with OM#1, I put  in its box and then in my bedside cabinet for safe keeping. W went  snooping managed to retrieved it. When we decided to work on the M W handed it back to me minus the box and I put it back on.

 When went back to OM#1 I took it off again and  I thought I had put it in a safe place for later. Recently when I went looking for it I couldn’t find it, it was only when I was reading through my old post on the DB site that I realised that I had handed the ring back to W.

I wished I had kept the ring, my fingers are big and the ring size was Z+1, there’s  a lot of gold there and W had probably melted it down as that’s what she used to do with old jewellery.

 I can’t be bothered asking her about it now, that chapters done.

Lanzo

I don't know what I was thinking but I looked in STBXW jewellery box tonight and there it was the wedding ring (not melted down at all).

Well I'll keep it for now but I think I'll give it to D12 sometime in the future. It sure as hell isn't going back on my finger.

Lanzo

[summer90]

H took his off when he started the "crazy" workouts at the gym.  Saying it was hurting his finger - never seemed to be a problem before that for 24 years. This was at least six months before BD.  I am now pretty sure he was having an EA with a woman at work.  The gym is at work too.

I took mine off because I didn't feel married anymore, not in the same way.  If he wants me back at some time, he is going to have to start all over again and date me, get engaged and married.

The man I married 24 years ago left me emotionally and the one who might come back is a different man.  Different man, different ring.

[Blindsided13]

I took mine off for two days, it felt wrong. It use to represent the commitment and love between H and I. He threw that away. He doesn't wear his, at first it bothered me, but truthfully he could have been taking it off. Who knows? That marriage is over. I'm with you Summer90. There can only be a new relationship, starting at ground zero. As for my ring I wear it for me. I took a vow and I will honor it.

[DillyDollyDaydream]

Mine's on and off like the proverbial wh*re's drawers.

I took it off for a time several weeks ago and started getting unwanted attention from other men so began wearing it intermittently.