[confused_but_trying]

While I don't know the details of the story; I do know of one.  My insurance lady had a MLC about 25 years ago.  She divorced her husband, but realized what she had done 3 years later and won him back.  They have been happily married ever since. 

I agree that it would be a rare case for a woman to come back if it were due to normal type relationship problems, but I believe that a MLC is different and the odds of them returning are just as good as a male's.  The reason we don't see many stories (I think) is because there are far more men that go through MLC than women, and just as with any MLC'r returning home, it is ultimately up to the LBS whether they take them back or not.  Sadly, I think that the LBS in most cases does not want them back.  So if you couple the fact that most of them are male and most of the time the LBS does not take them back, you hear very few stories.

[Jackolar12]

Thanks everyone for contributing, please keep the female return stories coming.

[twiceburnt]

Well, mine came back, but then left again a few years later (well she's still living with me, but she's gone emotionally, etc.) - so I'm not sure if that counts.  Will she try coming back again?  I have no idea.  I have a gut feeling she will try someday, but who knows.  She complains about everybody's husband these days.  Other than her affair partner(s), she seems to be a man hater lately, well at least a husband hater.

Her mom went through an MLC as well, and eventually got back together with her H, but then left again as well (for good that time).  My W pretty much blames her father for the whole thing though.  She's always complaining about how he left them with hardly anything, etc.  I try to stay out of those rants, but she keeps forgetting that her mom left him, not the other way around. 

I know of another story where a lady started having an affair with this "bad boy" type guy.  She divorced her H, got a bunch of tattoos, etc. and eventually married the OM.  That marriage only lasted 9 months, and then she and her original H got back together and I guess are better than ever. 

I also think a lot of LBS men get snatched up pretty quickly after divorce by OW - so the opportunity doesn't even exist for their return.  It seems like once a year or so, there is a "Dear Abby" article in the newspaper about a woman writing in saying how she had an affair and regrets it to this day and her H won't take them back. 

[confused_but_trying]

Thank you for sharing TB.  I'm praying for you and your wife.

[Thirsty Duck]

I have an acquaintance who lives in another city about 3 hrs away. His XW had multiple affairs with much younger men, essentially turned into the town tramp. She monstered at him relentlessly; accused him of everything. Had him arrested and put in jail; tried to take his kids away. He signed away everything to her hoping it would show her how much he loved her. It didn't work; she divorced him.

He moved away to another city to start a new life himself. Five years later, he received a message she wanted to see him and get back together. His response...NEVER.

[confused_but_trying]

I have an acquaintance who lives in another city about 3 hrs away. His XW had multiple affairs with much younger men, essentially turned into the town tramp. She monstered at him relentlessly; accused him of everything. Had him arrested and put in jail; tried to take his kids away. He signed away everything to her hoping it would show her how much he loved her. It didn't work; she divorced him.

He moved away to another city to start a new life himself. Five years later, he received a message she wanted to see him and get back together. His response...NEVER.

This is exactly what I was talking about.  The LBS often cannot handle the damage done during their W's MLC and by the time they come back around the LBS wants nothing to do with them anymore.

[Dji76]

A close friend of mine had his wife return after affair and what sounds like many symptoms of MLC. I will say he has gone above and beyond to change himself. It has been a year since he discovered affair. She moved out and came back after s few months. I can not begin to explain the lengths this man has gone to change himself for the better. It has mostly been a thankless process and he has more than once thought about giving up. It wasn't until the past 5 weeks that he has seen real progress in their relationship. So I know it's possible for the women to return.

[confused_but_trying]

A close friend of mine had his wife return after affair and what sounds like many symptoms of MLC. I will say he has gone above and beyond to change himself. It has been a year since he discovered affair. She moved out and came back after s few months. I can not begin to explain the lengths this man has gone to change himself for the better. It has mostly been a thankless process and he has more than once thought about giving up. It wasn't until the past 5 weeks that he has seen real progress in their relationship. So I know it's possible for the women to return.

I believe with MLC it's more than possible.  It's inevitable.  It's just a question of how long will it take and how much damage has been done.

[gillies9]

females males its all the same how much damage they cause and how broken they are and time its we that eventually move on hang in there and god bless u and yours.

[riverbirch]

I had my own crisis back in 2004. Now the shoe is on the other foot. My affair was short lived and my h found out. He totally lost it. It was real bad and he had a revenge affair. I was kicked out of my house and a lot went down. We almost signed d papers. I couldn't do it. We slowly got back together,but things weren't dealt with. Having all the bad stuff happen opened my eyes. I vowed to never put another human being through that again.

When he left me October 2012 he never said anything,but after a while he used my affair to blame for his own Mlc. I know some of what he went through then stirred up things from his past.