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Interacting with Your MLCer Re: No Contact II
#10: November 26, 2014, 09:06:27 PM
LOVE IT LOVE IT LOVE IT!!!!

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Re: No Contact II
#11: November 26, 2014, 10:46:57 PM
Hey Init!

Just stopped by for my regular MLC cold shower!!

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Re: No Contact II
#12: November 27, 2014, 04:38:22 AM
Keep crazy at bay..instill peace . Do not fret over things you cannot control. God gave everyone free will.

Take no disrespect or abuse.
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Re: No Contact II
#13: December 17, 2014, 06:37:57 AM
Give yourself some peace this hoilday season stay way from the drama ignore the overtures. Each day you will get stronger.
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: No Contact II
#14: December 17, 2014, 01:03:35 PM
Thank you. I am going to read this everytime I feel down
Amazingly true
If only I had nc from the beginning maybe monster wouldn't have done so much damage
But can't change that
Moving forward.
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Re: No Contact II
#15: December 17, 2014, 06:40:18 PM
I made the same mistake hopeful1.

I should have gone NC right off the bat and had him arrested for stalking and harrassement but I was trying to save the family... ::)

My efforts meant nothing to him....or them apparently. I was just supposed to stick my head in the sand like nothing happened.

Coulda, woulda, shoulda..don't beat yourself up over it now. At least I know now there was no saving the relationship.

There was none to save.
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: No Contact II
#16: December 17, 2014, 09:58:46 PM
I am at that point too
I don't wAnt to save it now
I litterally just filed for divorce all he has to do is reply if he doesn't want it but that won't happen
So that's it now
I am done H had monstered too toxic now 
Yes I too only contacted to save my family and all it did was destroy it
But I have my our family now and he had his new life
So no use crying over spilt milk.
I truly accept it's over.
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Re: No Contact II
#17: December 18, 2014, 03:32:26 AM
Things do get better..I guess ...more like different.

 Divorced for 4 years.  NC for 1 year and 8 months. The advice focus on you is key and what helps you feel the best. Cry and get sleep!!

The monstering is projection in how they feel about themselves. As hard as it is - you cannot take it personally.
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: No Contact II
#18: February 02, 2015, 05:41:13 AM
Valentines Day is on it's way..you may see cycling from them or experience your own.

If you haven't tried No Contact yet this could be a good time to start. Heal- use your head and save your heart.
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: No Contact II
#19: February 02, 2015, 06:00:43 AM
Good advice in it, my H is for the most part a vanisher and I am mainly NC. I am dreading my first Valentine's Day without him though we never made a big deal of it. I have a lot of willpower luckily so I know I wont contact him even though I'll want to! It will be hard though, I think I'm mostly worried that my H will do something stupid like propose to OW! I agree, No Contact works best for me to be able to move on.
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1st BD April 2014 (EA probably PA) left OW May 2014, came back home June 2014, 2nd BD August 2014. Lived with OW1 for 2 years, now with OW2 (half his age).
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