[in it]

  Now that's funny!!

Toysaplenty? He broke your nose and you are still standing??

[toysaplenty]

Ok, peeps, after reading my posts above and my husband's (X) bizarre antics, and his OW's antics what do you think about this? My husband and I spent 15 years restoring our Victorian home. We gutted the thing down to nothing and restored it to an amazing beauty. So 15 years of husbands life was blood sweat and tears with this house. I got the house in the divorce. Since husband left, even since he married OW, I get slow drive byers at all hours of the day and night. I know this because the outside of the house is covered in cameras. We had them installed to protect the elaborate holiday shows we did on the house. So, tell me, with how wrapped up he was in our home, and all the crazy $h!te he does and says that he does not drive by this house? My new boyfriend says, nope, no way, he's married now, he will not drive by. New boyfriend does not understand MLC. I say, crazy husband is driving by, how could he not? It is typical crazy fare. Then second story bathroom got a leak and came through to the first floor. Insurance company ended up practically remodeling the downstairs because of the leak. The check to the contractors got mailed to my address to give to the contractors. Stupid post office forwarded it to my ex's mom's house cause that is where he has his mail forwarded. The check did not have his name on it, but the mortgage company had mine and the ex's name on the envelope so the post office sent him the check. So, he gets a 40,000 check made out to some contractors he does not know, for his old  house. Apparently, he had no clue what the check was for and contacted my insurance agent. So now he knows that major remodeling went on here, that I got $40k worth of brand new stuff. Tell me he is not driving by to see what is going on?... I say he is.

[toysaplenty]

In It: I don't know if I am standing. I mean, I have a new boyfriend. We are engaged now. The dude is truly perfect for me. I still love my ex-husband. He was so flipping good to me in our marriage and we had a really great marriage. Once I love someone, I always love them. That is just how I am. How can I stand when he married OW and I am now engaged? Dude, he broke my nose, landed me in a mental hospital for 3 days, turned his whole family against me, financially destroyed me, stole from me, kicked our dogs, moved his OW in his mom's house while we were still married, drug me through a 9 hour court case over the nose breaking claiming I broke my own nose to frame him, yada yada yada. How do you stand after that??? $h!te, I'm lucky to be crawling, lol. I love the man he was, and I am pretty much just trying to move on with a new life as best I can.

[in it]

WOW you've been through it that's for sure 

Work on LETTING GO of whatever that fantasy was and read about healing from narcissistic abuse. You new guy deserves to have your emotional self. Don't hang on to the smoke and mirrors that was your ex.

[toysaplenty]

In It, thank you. I agree totally with you. I plan on marrying Mr New Guy. I have let go of X. I will always love what he was to me, but I know he is no more. The hardest thing for me is the abuse I endured. I find myself asking myself all the time, "did that really happen", did this other thing really happen"? I have a hard time fathoming that anyone on the planet would do those things to me. Murder, robbery, rape, yeah we could all be victims of that sometime, but the insanity I endured, I have a hard time dealing with it. I wrote in another thread, my favorite astrologer said, honey, this is not over by a long shot. As soon as you are completely stabilized and happy, Mr Crazy is coming back on the scene. $h!te, I better hide the extension cords. Sorry to sabotage this thread, I am done blabbering...

[nah]

Toys, I thought I had a funny MLCer but you have me beat by a mile.

Yes, in the middle of it I would often just kind of flinch with a "that's weird" but as time goes by and we can put together the nonsense and laugh.  More proof that there was not a damn thing we could have done to prevent them from leaving.

My husband has done more MLC textbook changes, hair, clothes, young girl, etc.  but the strangest thing I would guess would be he started talking in a fake English accent, not all the time, just when he is around his band friends.  It's just bizarre.

[Airmid]

OK Toys -
I am used to telling MCler stories and winning the "weirdest story ever award"  but you have me beat by a long shot with the lawyer's letter demanding the extension cords. OMG I was LMAO.

Thanks for the morning chuckle.

[in it]

The divorce was uncontested. As we sat in the lawyers office and the lawyer asked him what grounds he had this look came over his face like 

What you didn't know you had to have grounds to get a divorce? You don't just walk in say you want a divorce and they GIVE one to you.

So I sat there and helped him think enough of them up so he could file. 

They were the ones I would have used if I was divorcing him!

[nah]

Well, I didn't understand MLC so like a dummy I filed.  To make it easier I filed under unreconcilable differences.  I'm not sure what he told his lawyer but the hearing before the official divorce she said at a meeting with all of us there, "Well, for unreconcilable differences you have to prove you did everything you could to reconcile your marriage".  I said, "we didn't do one thing, not one, he just ran away and stopped talking to me".  I added that I refused to lie on the stand so now we are stuck.

He turned red as a beet and wouldn't look up.

My lawyer came up with a compromise and I agreed to say we could not reconcile that day.

[cosette]

I sought out this discussion bc I saw this a couple of weeks ago and read some then.  The pics of feet really made me laugh.  I have not experienced that one.  I have to put on here the recent text that my husband sent me that I think fits on this discussion.

Background to text:  BD was Dec. 2013.  H quit talking to me May 2014 but lived at home same bed until 2 1/2 weeks ago.  He left on Valentines for his moms.  He told me just this past Monday that he has found a place just down the road from moms to rent.  I told him thanks for telling me.  I texted latter that we really needed to look at our finances.  So yesterday he sent me a long text explaining what bills we could cancel to be able to afford his new place.  I texted "Thanks"

So last night he sends another text "So do you approve the financial plan that I sent you?"

BIZARRE!! who asks their wife to approve them moving out financially?

I jokingly told my friend that the next text I was going to get was "So do you approve me taking out my secretary on a date?" 

You can't make this stuff up!!!