[hopeful2]

I agree that everyone has good and evil with themselves. I have a daily battle inside of me. If the evil side wins for a moment the good will fight back with remorse.My h has no remorse or even guilt.He told me that he knows he has evil inside of him.That I had no idea of just how evil he was but that it was a part of himself .He saw no need to change or even fight it.Before the MLC he would fight it but now he embraces it.He justify his actions by blaming me. I know as long has he is in that frame of mind he will never change.

[Thunder]

I was wondering if anyone else could see the traits of MLC  before the crisis.

No. I saw no evil in my H but he did have childhood issues that were unresolved.

[living with Hope]

I only saw a side similar to what my husband has displayed during MLC and it was no where near in its intensity. It was when we first met and he became jealous and went into a jealous fit.  I don't think I ever saw it again....until MLC hit. 

I had thought about it a few times but not really a lot. I do find some of his behaviour now does mimic our early relationship.  I saw some exchanges with his OW where they were fighting and it reminded me of us in the early days where we would have a fight and break up and then make up.  The fights were over silly stuff. Except his fights with this woman were over his family and me and his marriage. So not silly stuff but very immature.  They would threaten each other and accuse each other of cheating  and how I was ruining their relationship. She was a secret so not sure how I was ruining it.  They did have a fight over toothpaste this fall though that was captured on my son's GF's voice mail. lol So that is silly stuff.

My husband has alot of childhood/teenage angst with his family/parents that are unresolved.  I keep thinking he has returned to being a teenager.

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I agree that everyone has good and evil with themselves. I have a daily battle inside of me. If the evil side wins for a moment the good will fight back with remorse.My h has no remorse or even guilt.He told me that he knows he has evil inside of him.That I had no idea of just how evil he was but that it was a part of himself .He saw no need to change or even fight it.Before the MLC he would fight it but now he embraces it.He justify his actions by blaming me. I know as long has he is in that frame of mind he will never change.

This describes my H - it has always been in him but now he doesn't even try to control it.

[patience.of.a.saint]

My h has no remorse or even guilt.He told me that he knows he has evil inside of him.That I had no idea of just how evil he was but that it was a part of himself .He saw no need to change or even fight it.Before the MLC he would fight it but now he embraces it.He justify his actions by blaming me. I know as long has he is in that frame of mind he will never change.

Mine is just like this.

[Picton]

My husband has alot of childhood/teenage angst with his family/parents that are unresolved.  I keep thinking he has returned to being a teenager.

This is 100 % mine! Hard to tell some days if it's my xp or 13D texting me 

Kia kaha - stay strong

[laststand]

Once in therapy he said - "I have been purposely cold so that she sees there is no hope in our relationship"

My W said this exact same thing to me. Still not sure how to interpret this.  Is this part of the MLC script?