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#110: April 09, 2011, 01:49:36 PM
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I think it is all about what you feel comfortable with. I always try to think about how I would feel if I walked into that situation involving my H. I have been out to lunch with clients from the bank and ALWAYS take along a coworker just so that the client doesn't get the wrong idea. I don't want people thinking I am sleazy in any way. I believe when you are married there  are certain standards .The one thing I believe people don't realize is that  being overly friendly with someone of the opposite sex can cause major problems in a marriage. When you start sharing your personal intimate details of your marriage with a friend of the opposite sex you are just looking for trouble. Then shortly after comes the "he/she understands me better"-BS !!!!!

Now that I can climb own off my soap box... I am all for traveling to the West Coast for a mandatory LBS meeting. I can just see me telling my boss now ...Yes Iris it really is mandatory they said I have to be there for two weeks without any cell phones or laptops." Wouldn't that be great 2 weeks of doing nothing but enjoying the sights and sounds with my LBS friends. Sounds like paradise to me all I need is a drink with umbrella and I am good to go :)
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Re: Old Meet Up threads combined
#111: April 09, 2011, 01:53:26 PM
OP- You are so right. Our forum can only determine what we hope will happen but there are no expectations or even consequences for that matter if someone breaks a rule.

So- for the Cali lunch ( I have high hopes, no expectations, and all bets are off the table)
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Re: Old Meet Up threads combined
#112: April 09, 2011, 02:17:52 PM
Hi LG, Ready & L

I'm up for lunch on Sunday- just have to find a babysitter for my girls.

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#113: April 09, 2011, 06:38:30 PM
Eternity,

Glad you got home safe.  Miss you, already.
I will check to see if I got any amount of tan today.  Doubt it, but who knows?

We had a total of 12 beautiful LBS' in LUX.

Stayed hosted (thank you, Stayed!), XYZ, Bewildered, Niff Naff, Hyperglad, Crazy Stuff, Journey to Self, Dragonfly, Following Bliss, Eternity, and Stand & Deliver.  (Me - Laursecan - too).

It was an amazing weekend - full of laughter, hugs, lots of walking and a few tears (happy tears).

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Re: Old Meet Up threads combined
#114: April 09, 2011, 06:39:51 PM
OP.... you are right! NO EXPECTATIONS!!

Good4You, I am personally very friendly and sometimes flirtatious with persons of the opposite sex... and somehow I'm able to remain faithful to my husband, LOL!! Although, in hindsight, he would NOT have approved of my behavior in some circumstances in the past, and rightly so, I was STILL able to remain faithful!! Since I am a PROVEN commodity, I get to do whatever I want without reproach from HIM, but HE has put a noose around his neck as far as his future behavior goes. No women within 10 feet of him, especially if they "aren't looking for anything to happen..." ESPECIALLY that!!

It think we have already broken all of the "rules" and crossed lines just by knowing one another... I mean, Ready and OP and DGU know ALL of the most intimate details of my marriage... and yet, somehow, we are able to remain faithful to our cheaters, LOL!! I think I did see big congrats on the DB board once for two members who had ditched their cheating spouses and married each other.... :o that's when I found this forum.... just sayin' 8)

Pretty sure we should meet at Jerry's Famous Deli on Ventura Boulevard.... I'll check their hours and post a plan here, which can change slightly to accomodate all of us if necessary. Can't wait to meet all of you!!
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#115: April 09, 2011, 10:56:44 PM
you know what. This has been 6 months since BD and I am not able to cry. But yesterday after leaving you all in LUX I cried but these were indeed happy tears
I had a wonderfull time with amazing ladies. Those H's are really stupid ;D
I am off to Brussels now :D
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#116: April 09, 2011, 11:49:24 PM
Sounds like you had a wonderful time.  I wish I could have made it.  Maybe next time.

I'm so jealous .

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#117: April 10, 2011, 01:57:34 AM
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Sounds great.

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#118: April 10, 2011, 08:52:27 AM
Well XY has the pictures posted on the alt and I must say you ladies look great!

Good job STAYED on organizing this trip.

If you want to see the pics you need to be friends with XYZCF.
If you need help with that PM me and I will help you.
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#119: April 10, 2011, 10:10:59 AM
I agree with OP you are all so beautiful...you can see and feel such good energy from those pics! 
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