[covenantkeeper]

I am 4 years older than my husband. Although, you would never know it to look at us.

I can definitely tell you my husband was not looking for a mother in me......I am the complete opposite of his mother! LOL!

However, every woman he has been involved with looks, sounds like, and acts like his mother. I have taken that to be he is looking for someone to validate what he is doing.

His mother, while not one to give a lot of vocal support to her sons, also never thought they did anything wrong.  So, my h could go find these women knowing they would also support and love him and let him know whatever he does in life is just fine and dandy!

And that just makes me want to barf!!

I think you are way off to even consider that men who marry a woman who is older than them is looking for a replacement mother or a mother figure in their lives. I think they just fell in love with someone who happens to be older than them!

[Looking4Sanction]

I am 18 months older.  I find this interesting as the other chat site that I am on most of the women are older as well.  Married my H when he was 19.  I totally believe that being I am the oldest of 4 and he is the youngest of 5 that I fulfilled a nurturing role.  It made an easy transition into marriage.  I also believe that H is trying to relive his late teen years as he and my S18 act exactly the same way.  Very interesting stuff!

L4S

[rediscover]

I'm 7 months younger.  OW is a year older than he is, not sure exactly how many months though.
My daughters thought she was 10 years older than Daddy. 
Makes me feel great, especially since I still get carded to buy drinks.

[trusting]

I am a whopping two weeks older.   

[Shantilly Lace]

I am 1 year younger, ow is 3 years younger

[Purple stain]

I am 7 years younger than my h and the youngest one on here. Hence I don't comment much, as others have more life experience and kids already...

Actually, I wonder if putting our family life on hold has to do with my h's MLC (previously he couldn't answer his question like other questions either)

[DCD]

i am 3 years younger than the man i married

[With Gods Help!]

I am 6 months older (but look younger than o/w and im not joking) what made me think is o/w is 13 & half yrs younger than my h, she is the same age as h's mum was when his dad died, my h was only 7 but very close to his dad and never got to attend funeral or say goodbye, his mum was admitted to hospital with severe clinical depression and on suicide watch, h said felt abandoned first he lost his dad then his mum left him with no explanation so wondered if thats why h chose FECKED UP O/W as she is as messed up as is mum was back then and the same age xxxx

[OldPilot]

I seem to have noticed a trend and I haven't seen brought up although it may have.
Seems like a disproportional amount of women here are older than there MLC husbands.
Has it been brought up, is it relevant?

I do not believe it is relevant.
Just a coincidence.

Thats my .02 and there will be no PUNCHES in the nose.   

FWIW I will be 57 next month and my wife is 6 weeks younger.

[Mermaid]

I am 3 years younger than my H. OW is 26 years younger than him (half his age). Neither of us are anything like his mother.

Statistically, marriages are more likely to run into problems if the age difference is significant (20+ years), especially if the woman is older than the man. The majority of people here are not very different in age to their spouse.

The reasons why people fall in love and get married are complex, as are the reasons why people have a crisis at any age. There isn't one single, simple reason, like mother relationship problems, although this is a significant relationship in developing a child's ego identity.

I put an article on this forum some time ago about the relationship of high achieving men with their mothers which may help explain some types of midlife behaviour (I recognise mine in this):
http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=391.msg17890#msg17890