[MyBrainIsBroken]

The blog excerpt is interesting but I think there's a lot of focus on what won't work without much of a description of what will work.

[Songanddance]

That's why MBIB - you need to access his full blog site because he gives an awful lot of good advice on what does work.  This is just an extract to draw people in to the full programme he offers including free weekly podcasts from both his save the marriage website and thriveology.com website.

If I hadn't listened to what was then an MP3 download on midlife crisis marriage - I doubt I would be standing and I also doubt I would have found this website.   He made me realise that H's behaviour was his problem and not mine and that I had to step back, detach and let it happen.  I found HS much much later and by then knew what I was facing.

[31andcounting]

I agree Song~  I did the same, found Lee first.....than HS. 
I listen to all of his info, still now
31

[Songanddance]

 A book that I have been reading on kindle and have now bought the hard copy.

Love Being Me - by Julie Leoni.

It is about her having a breakdown and the slow days of recovery as a busy mum, wife, career professional etc.....  It is primarily aimed at women but the first chapter includes a paragraph about being lost, bewildered, world shaken apart and totally bereft.  Even though she was not an MLCer LBS - she still describes incredibly accurately the initial days of shock and anguish. 
Her subsequent chapters are about growth and finding you. 

She gives you questions and wants you to write down your answers. It is very informal in style and it's almost as though she is there sitting talking with you. 

This is an excellent follow on book from "Detach and Survive" which was written by an MLCer LBS.
Get both if you can - Amazon.

[LisaLives]

Even as a stander, I think everyone needs to read and live this... 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/getting-back-out-there/201506/when-the-person-you-love-doesnt-love-you

The person who is right for you is NOT your MLCer.  That MLCer may become the right person, but until they do, this article is spot on...  Love and light, ll

If you were already almost at that destination and you need further assurance, try this one!

http://tinyurl.com/kmvq67x

[superdog]

MBIB what if that bird crapping on your head stoped you in your tracks for 10 minutes in order that you were not on time to walk out in front of the car that was going to knock you down? Just askin. I believe it all happens for a reason.imho.

Larry Biotta has some great things on the chaos kids. Worth a listen to his podcasts, even for yourself.
I have to say it pegged my h spot on.

Sd

[stayed]

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/getting-back-out-there/201506/when-the-person-you-love-doesnt-love-you


http://tinyurl.com/kmvq67x

The first article was excellent.  Well written, lots of detail.  Explains every possible scenario.. really helpful.  The second one, said it was not available... not sure why... would have liked to have read that one...

Thanks Lisa... hugs Stayed

[Ready2Transform]

Try this link: http://tinyurl.com/kmvq67x

Or take "firetruck" out of that original one, and replace it with the word it replaces here on the forum (remove the "iretr" ).

The first article was excellent.  Well written, lots of detail.  Explains every possible scenario.. really helpful.  The second one, said it was not available... not sure why... would have liked to have read that one...

Thanks Lisa... hugs Stayed

[LisaLives]

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/getting-back-out-there/201506/when-the-person-you-love-doesnt-love-you


http://markmanson.net/firetruck-yes

The first article was excellent.  Well written, lots of detail.  Explains every possible scenario.. really helpful.  The second one, said it was not available... not sure why... would have liked to have read that one...

Thanks Lisa... hugs Stayed

Stayed, do you have filters on your system.  I might think just the title might not let you view it at work, or if you have kid filters...  But if you google the title and Mark Manson, it might come up--it was reprinted a lot...  Oh, now i see, did not know the forum automatically filtered the title!  Thanks R2T! 

[OldPilot]

Oh, now i see, did not know the forum automatically filtered the title!  Thanks R2T!

Yes an unintended consequence - Thanks R2T!
And LisaLives also.

I have edited all but one listing of the link with the tinyurl