[Still]

I think you have to extrapolate what they didn't say. They said most people 85-90% do not have any type of a crisis.

Well, according to Jim Conway, the number of people impacted by a truly destructive MLC is about 10%. They focused on the "myth" of MLC. Basically saying that since the majority of the population does not appear to go into a crisis, the idea is a myth.

Well, we are all impacted by the 10-15%. We are in the minority, but it doesn't make it any less painful or real to us.

[OldPilot]

Merged this thread in since we were discussing this topic this morning.
I put some links  about it just before your posts.

[StandandDeliver]

I have never seen Eat Pray Love, but I read the book. My friend's synopsis was something like this:

30 something woman wants out of her marriage to "find herself". Goes around the world (as you do) eating and praying and then finally "finds herself" in the shape of tall dark handsome man. She doesn't find herself, she finds amazing sex.

Having read the book, I have to say that I agree with my friend, I am not sure what great revelation that book gave about the meaning of life, or praying or love for that matter given its somewhat heady title. And it seems that the lady spent a lot of time and effort (and money?) doing something she could have achieved by going to a local Italian restaurant, sitting in her living room for a month trying to meditate and crying alot while avoiding other people and scrubbing the floors and then giving up her exclusion by going to good all night disco and heading home with the first attractive man that looked interested.

Aaaaah, I am such a cynic 

[StandandDeliver]

Oooh and meant to add I agree, it is most definitely about MLC - I think the author really profitted from hers, you've gotta feel for her LBS though, her portrayal of him and her marriage was actually a bit monstery imo - and it became an international best seller. THAT is monster at its worst...

[Rollercoasterider]

Regarding the CBS News Story:

I just posted a comment over at CBS. I think the story was more about midlife transition and they do a disservice when they compare it to MLC as though a person should just make lemonade. Don't we wish they would just make lemonade. But some people insist on keeping life as lemons for awhile.

[Buggy31]

http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2011/06/19/sunday/main20072351.shtml


Comments anyone?

[readytofixmyselffirst]

One aspect of research that keeps coming up is not the idea of AGE being a factor in the "mid-life" crisis. Rather, an event triggers the "crisis" such as death of a parent, loss of close friend, career change. Because such events begin to occur at a more frequent time as people enter mid-age, the crisis strikes. That is why we see a large range in ages but the triggering events seem to be the same.

I was surfing and came across the following resources including out forum.

http://www.midlife.com/ Click on the “Free Resources” tab at the top of the page for some decent articles.

http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/index.html This site is based on a real couple’s experiences with a midlife crisis and infidelity. There is also a blog and a forum.

http://midlifeclub.com/ This site also has a forum and several other resources listed.

http://www.news.cornell.edu/releases/March01/midlife.crises.ssl.html :  An article discussion more of the statistics found in the Wethington study mentioned above.

http://lifetwo.com/production/topic/midlife-crisis Nice site with lots of articles and info about midlife crises.

http://lifetwo.com/production/midlife-crisis-book-top 20-questions about midlife crisis.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/search/apachesolr_search/mid%20life%20crisis%20and%20infidelity?keys=affairs&x=25&y=8 General search results for midlife crisis and infidelity on the Psychology Today website.  Most articles written by professional therapists and/or psychologists.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-srv/health/seniors/stories/midlife042099.htm Interesting Washington Post article: “Midlife Without a Crisis.”

http://lifetwo.com/production/node/20060719-are-male-and-female-midlife-crises-different Article:  “Are Male and Female Midlife Crises Different?”

[OldPilot]

Ok I decided to remake this thread since we keep discussing this all over the board.
This should be all the posts now in one thread.

RCR did post on the CBS board with a comment and a link to our website.

[Sideways]

Just wanted to add that I agree with StandandDeliver on Eat, Pray, Love.  Saw the movie, did not read the book.  I think the synopsis from your friend is right on.

[Trustandlove]

I didn't see eat, pray love, but remember reading about the sequel -- tall dark and handsome needs a visa to live in the US; that's not so simple; she starts writing about how love really does require work, that the practical realities have to be dealt with, they end up having to get married for the visa, etc., etc.,  etc.

Don't know if she's got to the regrets stage yet.....