[OldPilot]

Well Terry is back with his GF as of Wed. night,
he didn't look as bad as he has in recent episodes.
It must be those LOVE hormones.

Anybody else watch this episode?

[hyperglad]

truth seeker I think that confirms the mlc thing..... when i first found out I joined Dr Bobs infidelity site, i was wondering why most H/W were trying to reconcile as soon as caught, while mine was going back and forth...don't get me wrong others on there were too, but MLC didn't enter my head until later, I just thought my h had an affair and because i found out it would stop 

[LettingGo]

Dr. Bob is GREAT!! I LOVE him!! But, for reconciliation... He is a real, sincere, GOOD GUY!! I bought his ebook, and it's great, but isn't really for MLC affairs... there is some overlap....

[Standing in Patience]

Please, please, would someone who has the influence, the moxie, the pull, please encourage the media, the radio, television, the movies to put out there the devestation, the reality of a true mlc?

I can't put myself out there. Can someone call Oprah, The View, Ellen, anyone who will listen about this? The affairs, the abandonment of w (or h), the children, the extended family, is much more than the ordinary (sorry) marital affair. If it were a "normal"(sorry again) exit affair, my h wouldn't have vanished to the other side of the country and not see his children.

If we could prepare even just one future h or w or family that this is a real crisis, then the phone call or contact would be have been worth it.

Never in my wildest dreams would I have suspected my h of doing this to himself and his wonderful family. I am afeared we have great children who will carry this hurt for the rest of their lifetime and into their own families if his mlc doesn't resolve in a positive way.

H pls come back to your w and family some day. There I put it out there for everyone in cyberspace to see and hear. Pray for us, play for all of us. I am having a prayer full moment.

[StillStanding]

30 something woman wants out of her marriage to "find herself". Goes around the world (as you do) eating and praying and then finally "finds herself" in the shape of tall dark handsome man. She doesn't find herself, she finds amazing sex.

While I wouldn't go so far as to say "and they all lived happily ever after" is a lie, it pretends that the relationship continues in the same state it was in at the end of the story.

[Rosie2010]

I've been reading this thread after getting RCR's latest blog on the statistics of marriage and the alienator.  Boy, I
to say it opens up so many questions in my min.  Mama Bear - are totally hilarious and you put a smile on my face.
My heart goes out to everyone too!  I have more and more been questioning MLC as the total problem my h is facing.
I know that my h shows all the signs of MLC but he also doesn't fit the entire mold in some important ways.... Our children
are adults and he does make a point to visit them -he lives in another state but still has ties here (his doctor, dentist, barber (!!?)
friends and maybe once a week or every two weeks, he does see them.  We are soon to become first time grandparents.
He is quiet on his personal life - no details.  He started a relationship (ea) months before he left but only became a pa a month
before he left at which time he was no longer intimate with me...long story but he wasn't home all that much - but at our
vacation home (where he said he had "work")   Our relationship had been strained for 3 months before this but there
were aspects of our relationship that he wasn't happy with long before that - again, there was no serious discussion about
his unhappiness or any indication of wanting to leave....  Gone for 9 months, then back for 7 - during the 7 our relationship became
very good (or so it seemed)...then up and left again without any warning or reason that I could see.  EXCEPT he went back
to her.

So this is where I stand.  Either:  a.  He is truly in love with her and 34 years of marriage mean nothing
                                                      b.  TOTAL MLC

Choice a still seems so unlikely to me because let's face it....WHO THE HELL DOES THIS IN THEIR RIGHT MIND??  after 34
years??

I have been standing for 3 years with no change in h except for the 6 months (and he says he was "faking".)  After having a great
6 months, I totally do not understand how someone in their right mind could up and leave again without even saying anything.
All I can think of is that he was too embarrassed for people to know that he left and that he made a MISTAKE!  Even
though my h has a hard time admitting mistakes, could a person in their right mind create such damage because they have "pride"?

I just can't figure it out!

My divorce is imminent.  I have been trying everything to stall it but can't do it anymore.  I wanted to be as amicable as
possible but that's not possible anymore either simply because of financial reasons.....  I do believe that he will think
I am doing whatever I possibly can to hurt him out of revenge but it's not true.  I have told him this but....who knows what
his brain can process!

So confusing!  I'm just moving ahead with my life as best I can because I don't really think he will come home anymore....
Sad but I can't cope with this disappointment anymore.  The first time he left, I was 100% sure he was coming home eventually
but after 6 months of what seemed wonderful - if he still doesn't want me....I just don't know if he will ever come back.

Sometimes I think the second I give up, that's when he'll want to come home.... I don't hate him, but I can't love who
he is now either.  I love the man I married - but he says he's not that person anymore.    Maybe things in our lives have changed
and we have grown, but essentially we are still the same people, arent' we?    There were things in him that I didn't love, but
I loved him and I was  committed to our marriage always.  Sometimes I think he never really loved me in the first place.

[LisaLives]

Rosie, Unfortunately, you have to come to terms with the fact that you may NEVER know the answers to any of your questions.  So you have to just let them go.  Write them all down, burn them, have a ceremony, do something but you really may never know, so do what you have to, to pick up the pieces of YOUR life and make the best of it, whatever that means for you!  Let it go, and grow on...  Lots of love, Lisa

[OldPilot]

Another episode on Wednesday and Joe gets beat up pretty bad.

I think I feel like Owen most of the time, running his fathers business in big time debt.

The only thing is Owen is younger than me and his wife isn't divorcing him.

They are saying this Wednesday is the last episode, that is my only complaint about this show.

It is too short of a season.  Unlike MLC that goes on and on, this in over before I can blink my eyes.

[trusting]

It is too short of a season.  Unlike MLC that goes on and on, this in over before I can blink my eyes.

LOL!  I can't quite figure out how a handful of shows is considered a "season" either! 

[Standing in Patience]

Did you hear that this series will be cancelled? The reason is based on viewership.