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Discussion Re: Why isn't MLC recognised medically and in society?
#150: December 20, 2018, 06:13:33 AM
Quote from: Jackolar12 on December 20, 2018, 06:02:52 AM


Brenross, make sure your Mlcer stays away from injecting insulin direct to muscle before working out. Insulin’s popular over here with the Roid boys, the increase in glucose can cause all sorts of damage over time.

Unfortunately Jack my ExH is a Vanisher.. We are totally nc. ...off living in his fantasy world.  I have had no contact with him now for over 12 months.  He resides in the same regional town that we do, so we hear many stories on the grape vine.  I do worry daily about him, but unfortunately we cannot help him atm.

Jack I am sorry to hear about your son.  How traumatising for you, it is something you will never recover from.  A parents worse nightmare.  Talk about a double whammy for you.  We are all here for you if and when you need support or just a ear.


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Re: Why isn't MLC recognised medically and in society?
#151: December 20, 2018, 06:22:24 AM
Your wife has been gone for 8 years and no contact since BD? You have a true vanisher. Have you ever posted to the vanishers thread? https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=10504.70 - Anyone else have a vanisher? 20

It would be interesting to hear your story in more detail and how it is to have a MLCer who has been gone for so long and no contact.

I'm so sorry for the loss of your son.

You can certainly help others around here.
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Re: Why isn't MLC recognised medically and in society?
#152: December 20, 2018, 06:39:15 AM
I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your son, J.  Do you mean to say that even with the death of your child, you still didn't hear from your MLCer?  My gosh, that's horrible!  My heart goes out to you.
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Re: Why isn't MLC recognised medically and in society?
#153: December 20, 2018, 06:57:25 AM
I am so sorry for the loss of your son, Jack, and the struggles you've had to face.
I know we all know that active MLCers in our face create huge strain and chaos, but there is a brutality to being 'un-existed' by a vanisher which is quite a WTF primal wound for those of us who experience it.
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Re: Why isn't MLC recognised medically and in society?
#154: December 20, 2018, 06:59:37 AM
Oh man Jack, I'm so sorry to hear that.  Of course that took your time and energy.
I'm just glad you're here now.  I like your viewpoints and you present them well.

I just wanted to add, about hormones, I actually witnessed my H have hot flashes during his crisis.  I don't know if anyone believed me.
I didn't think it happened to men but I guess sometimes it does.

He would be sitting on the couch just watching a show and all of a sudden his face would get red and he would get sweaty.  He'd say how hot it was in the house and turn down the heat.
I never said anything but the heat was fine, but I knew from female friends of mine who had them, what a hot flash does to you.

He started wearing short pants to work, even in the winter.  He was always hot.

So I believe hormones, or lack of, can actually effect them in a negative way.  Estrogen and Testosterone can effect our physical well being along with moods and emotions.
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« Last Edit: December 20, 2018, 07:01:11 AM by Thunder »
A quote from a recovered MLCer: 
"From my experience if my H had let me go a long time ago, and stop pressuring me, begging, and pleading and just let go I possibly would have experienced my awakening sooner than I did."
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Re: Why isn't MLC recognised medically and in society?
#155: December 20, 2018, 07:02:47 AM
Oops, I see a new thread needs to be started.   :)
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A quote from a recovered MLCer: 
"From my experience if my H had let me go a long time ago, and stop pressuring me, begging, and pleading and just let go I possibly would have experienced my awakening sooner than I did."
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Re: Why isn't MLC recognised medically and in society?
#156: December 20, 2018, 07:17:00 AM
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Total Vanisher
Divorced Sept 2016
S21, S17, S16 (autism), D14

🌹🌹Let's be real...Bren is the only one who can do Bren. I'm the best Bren on the planet. Trying to turn a skank into a Bren? That will surely end in disappointment, if it hasn't already.🌹🌹

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