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Discussion Anyone else have a vanisher? 10
OP: September 08, 2017, 05:41:44 AM
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Re: Anyone else have a vanisher? 10
#1: September 08, 2017, 05:42:41 AM
 ;D  Thank you!
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Re: Anyone else have a vanisher? 10
#2: September 08, 2017, 05:44:52 AM
Another thread vanishes into oblivion 😜
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Re: Anyone else have a vanisher? 10
#3: September 08, 2017, 06:29:28 AM
Quote from: Brenross on September 08, 2017, 05:44:52 AM
Another thread vanishes into oblivion 😜

 ;D ;D ;D

....and the spouse's of vanishers seem to get their sense of humor back sooner.

Most likely b/c the dark cloud has left the building and we get to once again experience the sun on our faces sooner.  8)

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Re: Anyone else have a vanisher? 10
#4: September 08, 2017, 08:58:04 AM
Jumping on! I don't have anything to add but I get strength from knowing there are people that get what I am feeling and give me help moving forward. Thanks for continuing with this thread!!!!
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Re: Anyone else have a vanisher? 10
#5: September 08, 2017, 11:15:41 AM
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Re: Anyone else have a vanisher? 10
#6: September 08, 2017, 01:30:49 PM
Attaching....

I think our vanshiner thread is the best...

Happy happy Friday y'all!!!

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Re: Anyone else have a vanisher? 10
#7: September 08, 2017, 07:53:23 PM
Wouldn't want to miss out on another vanisher episode!  '

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Re: Anyone else have a vanisher? 10
#8: September 09, 2017, 09:18:30 AM
Are vanishers more likely to get married?

Just wondering, how many on here have their vanishers married to the AP??
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Re: Anyone else have a vanisher? 10
#9: September 09, 2017, 09:38:02 AM
I know 2 vanisher (my xh and his bf) His bf has been a vanisher since late 2009 and mine since 2014. Bf and his OW moved in together new year 2015-16 when OW husband "finally" died (had been in hospice since 2009. Her 24 yo daughter moved in with them this new year. They are not married yet. My xh going on 3rd year with OW#2 (could be #8, who knows?) still not married but who knows she might trick him into this? Or he has started to walk up from Zombie land and never marry her  ;)

About vanisher vs clinger vs boomerangs……my view is; I think the more shame they feel over what they have done, the more vanishing behavior they show. I'm just thinking about when I have done something "not so good/nice" I tend to not want to see that person, cause that will bring out my shame more. Maybe there is a correlation also between high replay vs higher/deeper things they are ashamed of (more stuff then "just" one OW I mean?

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