[bluerose]

    Doesnt say love ows

[Mitzpah]

    Doesnt say love wh*r^s

It says "everyone"

[bluerose]

     I wonder how many of these ows have said" I didn't know he was married"  justifying her actions. She is playing the victim.

[Nas]

Again, we have a choice here.  We can lump all OW together as one collective boogeyman to target, lash out in anger and scare her off and learn nothing.

Or we can be objective, listen, and hopefully learn a heck of a lot more about her, our MLCers and ourselves in the process. 

I vote for the latter. 

[bluerose]

 Your out of your mind to give this piece of trash any kind if value.

[nah]

I'm with Nas, but we probably already scared her away.

This forum has changed over the years, some good, some not so good.

When I was first here, there was a former MLCer that started to post.

Several posters were not too happy,.... how dare a cheater write on this site?

I begged him to stay.  His insights were invaluable and helped me beyond words.  He could tell me things that only a MLCer would understand.  As I said earlier, we go around and around in circles asking each other,... now we have one of them in our laps.

Let's help each other.

B- are you strong enough to withstand the fire?  Helping us to understand could possibly make up for some of your past mistakes.

[terrified_in_TN]

I hope cross site posting is allowed?

This may help:
https://thestagesandlessonsofmidlife.org/lifes-lessons-misdirected-anger-at-the-other-woman/

-T

[bluerose]

     And what mistake would that be? Trusting my husband?  I am strong. Stronger than i ever thought possible. I will not particpate in any conversation with a home wrecking ow who wants sympathy for her married boyfriend ignoring her. I have read on here about some of tje abuse that these pigs dish out to the lbs and their children and its appalling.
     Bren has spent the nigjt in jail because of her h and his ow. Her daughter had been suicidal because of it. What about that?

[MsMedfly]

Sadly.. we want to blame the ow... It must be her fault.. He would have never done this to me, if it wasn't for her...

So untrue... They would have done it to us, regardless of who or what the OW is....

Remember.. THEY LIED TO the OW as well.... We have NO idea what they've been "told" about us...  We aren't the only victims of their lies!!

It's not the OP's fault when they've been lied to.... They are only operating from what they know and have been told!

It's once they know the truth... and they continue... That's when I say, throw them overboard... If you know that the person you are seeing is married... and you still continue to see them, that's when I agree totally with y'all... NO MERCY...

You know what it's like to find out the most trusted person in your life, your spouse, is a total lying, piece of poo... Now... flip that... Find out what the man you've been dating is really married and is a massive douche bag and you are now guilty of being a homewrecker...

A real lady would walk away from this type of man.... Sadly, we know most of the OW's we encounter, are the farthest thing from a lady!!

I'm like Nah... I would love to understand just what exactly do they say that makes it all "seem" ok to be a cheater??

Just my two cents....

[Nas]

Bluerose, I think Nah's comment about learning from your mistakes was directed at the OP, not at all at you.