Hello,
Is it normal for a Mid-life Crisis wife to tell her husband that she’s no longer attracted to him?
First of all, Pete Davidson dates models, singers, and actresses and he is all personality- not exactly in the top ten of the hunkiest men alive. So please dis regard your wife's statements. She is throwing you off and shifting the blame to you. Remember, she knows all your weak points and how to push the right points to keep you off balance.
It’s rejection, it definitely hurts the self-esteem. I know it’s hard but try not to dwell on it. In the end it means as little as anything else.
Read this several times. Great point.
I have to admit we don’t have sex very often. In fact it’s been sometime. After we had our second child who is now 15 it definitely wasn’t near as often as when we were dating and trying to get pregnant. I figured it was postpartum but it never got back to normal levels. She told me she’d work on it and look into therapy or potential drugs but that never happened. I told her I loved her and if she wasn’t feeling sexual, then that’s something that I would have to deal with. I get the impression with this midlife crisis. Her sex drive is actually increased, but hearing that from your spouse was hard to accept.
Man, my life and yours in a nutshell. My ex definitely had hang ups abut sex and it goes back way before she and I met. After our second child was born, it became less and less until after the bomb drop- non existent. Just like you, I felt it was something I had to deal with as I took my vows seriously and I was committed to her and the children.
What’s odd is the other day she told me she doesn’t like to tell me where she’s going. It would rather just come and go as she pleases.
Same here. Just wanted to live her life in secrecy and do as she pleased as well. However, I was doing all the cooking at that time and I wanted to know so that dinner would be ready when she and the kids came home. It's not controlling to ask someone where they are going especially if they live in your house. In my new home, we all tell each other where we are going. "I'm going to Target, do you need anything?" That's how people who care for each other interact. She doesn't have any empathy towards you and honestly, if she is anything like my ex; it borders on contempt.
Once again, she says I’ve been a wonderful husband and a great father but she’s put me in the friend zone a long time ago and that’s where I’m going to be.
First of all, you are not friends because friendship requires trust and you can't trust her. I wouldn't want her for a friend either. I am not friends with my ex either because I don't trust her. I an not friends with my new wife's ex. In the couple of times I met him, I was respectful, but I wasn't endearing either. I just don't buy into the "Well, I cheated on him, put him through three years of hell, broke up our family, took nine years of his retirement, and almost bankrupted him. But it's all okay because in the end, we're great friends."
I put the "We all ended up being friends" in the same vein as "They lived happily ever after" Yeah, right, all good for fairy tales, but not for reality.
I’m seeing less and less of her the last couple of week which is painful but at the same time if she decides to be aggressive and transition out of the home com may or June of this year I’m not going to fight her.
Don't fight her on it because none of this has anything to do with you. She is already living the single life, you just won't accept the memo. This is her crisis and if she thinks living on her own will bring her the happiness she seeks, let her have it. I used to build a lot of hope on the fact that my ex had not left home. But after she left, I realized it made no difference. She had been gone for years and I suffered more when she was around then when she was gone.
Continue to live and focus on you and the kids. In the end, it will help you heal and relieve a lot of the stress you are feeling.
(((Ready)))
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