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#40: January 15, 2024, 08:25:26 AM
This is fascinating.

What she told me early on was that her feeling was that she could not open her heart strings to be able to be my spouse again and that these feelings were facts.

I know feelings are not facts, but at this rate what is the difference. But it is the feelings piece that I see with ready's view on this. Not saying anyone is right or wrong, but merely fascinated with how that resounds with me....

And if someone on here can explain what a heart string is and how one goes about opening and closing, I'd be most interested.
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#41: January 15, 2024, 09:18:48 AM
I believe that back in the day tendons were thought to be heart strings and that the heart strings are where the deepest feelings of love and compassion come from.  So then this became an idiom "Tugging on the heart strings" or "pulling on the heart strings"
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#42: January 15, 2024, 11:01:36 AM
Thank you FW.

Any thoughts on how one opens and closes them?
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#43: January 15, 2024, 12:45:42 PM
I would say that emotional detachment is a big factor in opening/closing or not getting your heart strings pulled. 

https://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_releasers_detach.html
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#44: January 15, 2024, 01:00:29 PM
Quote from: mcm64d on January 15, 2024, 08:25:26 AM
And if someone on here can explain what a heart string is and how one goes about opening and closing, I'd be most interested.

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#45: January 16, 2024, 03:03:47 AM
Quote from: JohnnyBravo on January 15, 2024, 01:00:29 PM
Quote from: mcm64d on January 15, 2024, 08:25:26 AM
And if someone on here can explain what a heart string is and how one goes about opening and closing, I'd be most interested.

Under the cockles? Sub-cockular, if you will?

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#46: January 16, 2024, 09:13:09 AM
I agree with X, JB and FW......

As pathetic as I am about to sound, it was the first snow day that I actually had to get to work and it made me really sad. Usually, my xw would go overly concerned that I would even attempt to go to work and be concerned about how I made it. And now, of course, nothing. No care whatsoever.

I know it will be fine, and it is. It was just nice to know someone always cared, no matter what.
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#47: January 16, 2024, 04:47:14 PM
Quote from: mcm64d on January 16, 2024, 09:13:09 AM
As pathetic as I am about to sound, it was the first snow day that I actually had to get to work and it made me really sad. Usually, my xw would go overly concerned that I would even attempt to go to work and be concerned about how I made it. And now, of course, nothing. No care whatsoever.

I know it will be fine, and it is. It was just nice to know someone always cared, no matter what.

You're definitely not alone there... Although I can't say my ex-wife was THAT concerned, it was still nice to know someone cared. Heck, I'm wondering who's going to drive me home from my next colonsocopy! I don't really have any co-workers close enough to say that they're my relative... Strange little details like that just keep coming up.

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#48: January 17, 2024, 12:05:12 AM
Quote from: JohnnyBravo on January 16, 2024, 04:47:14 PM
You're definitely not alone there... Although I can't say my ex-wife was THAT concerned, it was still nice to know someone cared. Heck, I'm wondering who's going to drive me home from my next colonsocopy! I don't really have any co-workers close enough to say that they're my relative... Strange little details like that just keep coming up.

I took a taxi home....
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#49: January 17, 2024, 05:16:46 AM
They specifically say “no taxis” here, presumably so you don’t get taken advantage of while drugged up. (And better ambulance-chasing lawyers in the US?) Although I don’t know how they control you once you’re out the door…
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