Stopping in to say Merry Christmas 🎁🎄 and Happy Hanukkah 🕎 to all!
It has almost been 7 years since my life was turned upside down. I can't even believe it and I don’t even know who those people were going through all that crazy! My H is such a different person. On Tuesday I had to run errands, Christmas shopping, etc…. He called me as he was leaving work (that alone is something he NEVER did) and he asked me to wait to go shopping bc he had to get a secret Santa gift for work and he wanted me to help him pick it out! That also was something he’d never do! He also invited me to his office team building cooking lesson Christmas party! And when they divided into 3 teams he picked me first for his group. It probably sounds normal to others….but after years of feeling like I was in last place in his mind…it felt so nice! And I feel like it has been genuine…in the start of reconciliation it felt more planned. Like he was doing the right things because of the suggestions from therapy or bc he knew that was what he should be doing.
Anyway I am just posting an update to just help me journal these feelings but also if anyone is in a similar situation. Not sure if they should trust again or if things will get easier as time goes by…it does! Many times I would wonder if I was crazy to give H another chance. I listened to the “once a cheater always a cheater” comments from others. But time really is healing the wounds! And H really is the person he started as, and vowed to be!
Happy holidays everyone! I hate that we are all here but happy we have one another to lean on!