It’s so interesting the many ways news finds us. I can honestly say if a relative of my former husband’s girlfriend tried to contact me, I don’t think I would talk to them. I am glad that you feel that this has given you closure, so in that sense it’s a good thing. There was a chance that had he called you at another time in your life, in the past, where his call and wanting to talk to you about them and giving you information would have been upsetting for you during a time when you are already under stress, and so I’m glad that is not the case here. But it doesn’t seem that he took that into account before making the call to you. That’s just what struck me as that he was looking for someone to vent to and possibly to get information from you of some kind, but did he really take into account how hearing all of this would affect you? They never seem to think that, these people who seek us out, they never seem to wonder where we are in life, if we are dealing with cancer or other difficult things, before they show up unannounced to spin a tale of toxicity and drama.
What I took from your update is that YOU are in a good place and have good things ahead. I was so happy to hear that you have a brother who is willing to fly to another state to help take care of you, that you have the possibility of a life living close to people who love you and are willing to be there for you. That is fantastic and will make everything feel so much easier for you. I’m so happy for you and wish you all the best with your move.
“The desire to be loved is the last illusion. Give it up and you will be free.” ~Margaret Atwood
You can either be consumed or forged. It’s up to you; the fire doesn’t care either way.